Adoption Blog

  • Your Adoption Match Meeting: 6 Things To Say To Get Off On The Right Foot

    Adopting a baby can sometimes feel like an obstacle course. No sooner have you overcome one hurdle—taking the PRIDE course, finding an agency, completing your home study, etc.—than another one comes your way—writing your parent profile, creating your social media channels, spreading the word to family and friends, etc. But those challenges are minor compared to the one that eventually awaits you down the road: Meeting an expectant mother with an adoption plan for the first time. Match meetings are a lot like a first date, with both parties

  • Stop Bashing Birthmoms For Placing Their Babies For Adoption

    This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive mother.  It boggles my mind how often I hear negative things about birth moms. And the things I hear make me mad. An acquaintance mentioned to me that even though he wanted me to fulfill my dream of adopting, he would question the mental state of a birth mom. He said he would be really cautious with anyone willing to “give up their own child.” This comment bothered me on so

  • Pregnant And Thinking About Adoption? 10 Things People Will Say (And How To Respond)

    Kids say the funniest things. But adults have also been known to say some silly things every now and then. Especially when it comes to adoption—and placing a baby for adoption in particular. If you’re pregnant and are thinking about adoption or making an open adoption plan for your baby, you probably know what we’re talking about. But don’t get angry. Get armed. Keep in mind that unless they have a personal connection to open adoption, most people you’ll meet will have a limited understanding

  • The Day A Birthmother Chose Us To Adopt Her Baby

    This post is by adoptive parents Brandie and Doug. When we were waiting to adopt, we remember reading people’s success stories and how much they were a lifeline for us. So we wanted to write something that may help somebody who needs a little hope. In 2013 we had finally completed the year-long paperwork, education seminars and home visits and had our names officially on the list to adopt domestically. We waited for six months with next to no bites on

  • “How Do You Know If A Birthmother Will Change Her Mind About Adoption?” 10 Warning Signs To Watch For

    It’s a question we get all the time. “How do you know if a birthmother will change her mind about adoption?” The short answer is, unfortunately you don’t. Although a failed adoption placement can be devastating emotionally and financially, it’s nearly impossible to predict if, and when, it will happen. As a prospective adoptive parent, you could have the greatest relationship in the world with an expectant mother one day and then the next day, KABOOM!,  it’s over. She’s changed her mind and

  • 3 Wrong Reasons To Consider Open Adoption For Your Baby (And One Right One)

    The other day we were contacted by a woman with an unplanned pregnancy who was looking at creating an open adoption plan for her baby. Like a lot of women in her situation, she had considered parenting but didn’t think it was the best decision for her child at this stage in her life.  However, she still wanted to be involved in his life, which is why she was weighing the pros and cons of open adoption. From hearing her story, it was clear

  • Breastfeeding An Adopted Baby: What This Hopeful Mother Has Found

    This guest post is by Mira G, a hopeful adoptive parent My husband and I arrived at our adoption journey through the twists and turns of infertility.  Once we decided that biology wasn’t a necessity for creating our family, and then decided that pregnancy was also not required for us to happily have a family together.  So we began to move forward with the requirements in Ontario to become Adopt Ready.   We completed our P.R.I.D.E. training, survived our home study, registered

  • 5 Phrases Expectant Parents Hate To Hear From Adopting Parents (And What To Say Instead)

    Right now an expectant parent with an adoption plan is browsing through profiles of prospective adoptive parents, hoping to connect with someone just like you. So why not help her? Your parent profile is your calling card, a self-portrait that explains who you are, why you’re adopting, and what kind of parent you would be. Through your words, your profile can paint a compelling picture of your life and help you create a strong first impression in the minds of expectant parents. In short, it could

  • How Being An Adoptee Influenced My Decision To Adopt In A Positive Way

    This guest post is by Tanya, an adoptee and hopeful adoptive mother. As an adoptee, I always thought that adoption didn’t define me, that I was just like everyone else. But ever since my husband and I started our own journey as hopeful adoptive parents of a teenager or two, I have realized that my adoption has shaped my life in many ways. I was adopted as an infant, and grew up in a family and community where adoption was

  • 10 Things An Expectant Mother Looking For Adoptive Parents Wants You To Know

    If there’s one thing scarier than dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and creating an adoption plan for your baby, it’s looking for adoptive parents to raise her. Even though adoption practices have become more open and transparent over the past three decades, the decision to place a baby is still widely misunderstood and frowned upon by certain members of society. What many people still don’t understand is that in open adoption today placing a child is an act of love, not rejection. Birthmothers—women who relinquish their babies for