Adoption Blog

  • Will Sandra Bullock’s New Adoption Inspire Others To Adopt From Foster Care?

    For months, Sandra Bullock was sitting on a secret. But today, she finally revealed it to the rest of the world: She’s a mom again. By adoption. Seven months after being named Woman of the Year by People magazine (and, at 50 years old, she was the oldest woman ever to earn that honour),  Bullock tells the magazine that she has a new daughter, Laila. For months, the Oscar-winning actress denied reports that she had expanded her famous family. That’s because Laila, 3 1/2, was in

  • Why We’re Not Angry With Our Daughter’s Birthparents

    This guest post is by Crystal, an adoptive mother.  There is a question that we get asked time and time again, from friends, family, even professionals: “Aren’t you angry with them?” The “them” are our daughter’s birth parents. Birth parents of children with special needs are faced with a hard stigma.  So often in our experience people seem to want to blame them, to label them as selfish, weak or heartless. And I’m guilty of it. When we first were read

  • Life After Placement: 9 Birthmothers Share Their Stories

    Adoption Awareness Month is in full swing, and one of its goals is to educate people about adoption. It’s a task that Hillary Jones has taken upon herself to do not just this month, but every month of the year. Hillary is a birthmother and a photographer. Through her photographic essay, The Birthmother Series, she hopes to change the way that society views birthmothers by giving them a voice—and a face. “Giving up a child for adoption isn’t nearly as much of a taboo

  • When, And How, To Look For A New Adoption Social Worker

    This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive mother.  When my husband and I began the adoption process last year, we knew it would be met with frustrations such as not knowing when a match would happen—or even if it would happen. What we didn’t expect were the enormous delays we would face and the uncomfortable situations we would find ourselves in with our adoption social worker. From early on, something seemed off.  We were asked repeatedly during our visits whether

  • 7 Photos Every Adoption Profile Needs

    Choosing photos for your adoption profile is a daunting task. If you’re like most hopeful adoptive parents, you probably have a ton to choose from—from vacation selfies to Aunt Sophie’s 50th birthday bash. So where do you begin, and how do you decide which ones to include and which ones to leave out? A good place to start is to put yourself in the shoes of an expectant mother. If you were looking for an adoptive family for your baby, what would

  • How To Create An Authentic Adoption Profile

    Read any blog post about creating an adoption profile and sooner or later you’ll come across the word “authentic” or a variation of it. “To make a connection with an expectant mother, your profile needs to be authentic.” “Make sure to show your ‘authentic’ self when speaking to a prospective birthmother.” “Their profile wasn’t just gorgeous, it was authentic.” But what exactly does that mean and, more importantly, how do you you convey it to someone who knows nothing about you

  • Getting The Call: 3 Adoptive Families Recall The Moment When They Were Chosen

    In the open adoption community, it’s known as “getting the Call”—the magical moment when everything suddenly changes. It’s the event that every waiting parent waits and prays for—when an expectant mother (or your agency or social worker) contacts you to tell you she’s chosen you to adopt her baby. Sometimes the match falls through. The expectant mother may change her mind and decide not to go ahead with her adoption plan. But for those adoptive parents who do go on

  • Adoption and Permanency: How To Help Families Become Successful

    This guest post is by Marion Crook, an adoptive parent and author Permanency is the new word in the air around adoption. Recently I had the pleasure to attend the North American Council on Adoptable Children Conference where I learned more about this concept from the guru of permanency himself, Adam Pertman. Pertman is the author of Adoption Nation and the president and founder of the National Center for Adoption and Permanency. In his session, entitled “Reshaping Adoption for the 21st

  • To The Waiting Adoptive Parent Who’s Having One of Those Days

    I know today is hard. Yesterday might have been hard, too. And maybe the day before, and the week, and the entire month. There’s so much you have to think about. So much you have to do. And so little control over the process. Your profile has been out there, at your agency and online, for months and the only people who have contacted you about it are scammers and SEO services promising you placement at the top of Google. Your home

  • The Hardest Part About Placing A Baby For Adoption

    A little while ago I wrote a piece called The Hardest Part About Being A Waiting Adoptive Parent. It listed some of the challenges that hopeful parents face on the path to building a family through adoption, and many of the points were drawn from my own experiences when we were waiting. As an adoptive parent, I’ve never placed a baby for adoption so I can’t pretend to know what it’s like. However, I do know from the birthparents I’ve met or