It’s hard to know whether the parents you’ve chosen for your child are the right ones.

Speaking to them can help you decide. And it can also take your relationship with them to the next level.

After all, an adoption profile can tell you a lot about them. Speaking to them, however, will tell you more.

Hearing their voice — their tone, intonation, emotion, and how they interact — can give you a better sense of who they are and their personalities.

And it can also give you an idea about how involved you want to become with them and what kind of relationship you want to have before and after the placement.

Speaking to them for the first time can be nerve-wracking.

You’ll want to make a great impression. You’ll want to make sure that everything goes according to plan and that you don’t say the wrong thing.

Not to worry. They’re nervous too.

Like you, they’ll want to click with you and will worry that you won’t like them.

Here are some questions to help you make the most of your first conversation and build your relationship with the family you’ve chosen to adopt your baby.

  • Tell me about yourself…
  • How long have you been together?
  • How did you first meet?
  • When did you decide you wanted to start a family?
  • Why did you decide to build one through adoption?
  • What do you like to do in your spare time?
  • What kind of relationship would you like to have after the baby is born?