If you want to get to know the parents you’ve chosen for your baby better, there’s no better way than to set up a face-to-face meeting.

Meeting them in person can be tense. But it will also help you decide if they’re the right parents for you, and if so, to deepen your relationship with them.

You can meet the adoptive parents at any time during the adoption process. However, it’s not a good idea to get together unless you’re serious about your adoption plan and/or them.

Meeting them will help you develop your relationship with them further and could create complications for you if you decide to change your mind before the adoption.

As with so much of the adoption process, the decision is up to you.

If you’ve spoken to the adoptive parents and are comfortable with them, you may want to set up the meeting and speak to them on your own.

Or you can get your adoption worker, family member or a friend to do it for you.

Although you can attend it alone, it can’t hurt to take someone along for support and reinforcement.

Some quick tips:

  • find a comfortable place where you can talk freely and confidentially
  • keep the meeting short
  • bring a list of questions
  • keep the conversation positive and upbeat
  • don’t judge or grill the adoptive parents