Adoption Blog

  • 5 Things I’ve Learned While Waiting For An Adoption Match

    This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive parent. Next month marks two years since my husband and I have been officially waiting for an adoption match. We did a lot of research about open adoption and finding a match before we started the process but I don’t think anything could have fully prepared us for what was to come. We have experienced highs and lows and through it all, we have learned some valuable lessons about what it

  • 8 Questions I Wish People Wouldn’t Ask While I’m Waiting To Adopt

    This guest post is by Roozbeh, a waiting adoptive parent. My wife and I first decided to adopt 10 years ago and officially started the adoption process five years later. Over the years we have received many comments and questions about our decision. Informing and educating others about adoption is an ongoing process and we’ve never given up. But we’ve learned to keep our expectations in check. Like many complicated topics, there are a lot of nuances to adoption and understanding them

  • 8 Things I Wish People Wouldn’t Say To Waiting Adoptive Parents

    This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive mother. The adoption journey can be a roller coaster ride. It has its ups and downs, good times and bad. It’s important to surround yourself with people who support you and encourage you. Too often, though, even well-meaning people will say the wrong things. Sometimes, if you don’t know what to say, it’s better not to say anything. My husband and I have been waiting to adopt for more than a

  • How Open Adoption Has Expanded Our Family

    This guest post is by Andrea Nagle, an adoptive mother.  In October of 2014, after waiting a year-and-a-half, my husband and I adopted our beautiful little girl Olivia. Her birthparents picked us the night we met them. They were young, hip kids and individual thinkers. They said they liked that our adoption profile was interesting and had personality. I had included things like our musical tastes which seemed to be a bit of a selling point for them as they liked

  • The Incredible Story Of How Our Four Adoptive Families United As One

    This guest post is by Lisa, an adoptive mother. Our adoption story may not be unique, but our family is. It began in 2007 when our son’s birthmother placed him for adoption and a baby boy joined our three daughters. That part of the story is not unusual. What is unusual about our adoption journey is that my son’s mother gave birth to an additional six children between 2009 and 2014. All of them have been adopted by four separate families through

  • How To Support Someone Through The Roller Coaster Of Adoption

    This guest post is by Kristin Vredevoogd, an adoptive mother and author. Many movies and television shows misrepresent adoption and portray couples who easily say, “Let’s adopt,” and it’s smooth sailing from there.  Adoption is filled with many opposing emotions on every side of the adoption triad.  There is joy and sorrow, loss and gain, and grief and fulfillment.  Adoption is something that can be difficult to relate to unless you have personal experience.  While adoption contains a positive end

  • Waiting To Adopt Is Hard. That’s Why I’m So Grateful For My Family And Friends

    This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive mother. My husband and I have been officially waiting to adopt for 1 1/2 years but that’s just on paper. In our hearts, we’ve been waiting for much longer. It’s not an easy journey and when all the paperwork is done and there is nowhere left to register, all one can do is wait. Wait for that phone call or email saying that you’ve been chosen. It’s the moment I dream about

  • How Our Son’s Birthmother Made Me A Mom

    This guest post is by Jody Hoogwerf, an adoptive mother.  It was January 4th, one year to the date that we began our journey at the fertility clinic. Our infertility journey had actually started years before, six to be exact, but that day was “D day”—the day we needed to start conversations about taking the plunge and paying upwards of $10,000 to try and have a baby with the help of western medicine or through adoption. That night my phone rang.

  • Placing My Baby In An Open Adoption: What I Want You To Know

    This guest post is by Jessica, a birthmother.  I am a birthmother. I am proud of this title and love talking about my story, especially to those who are willing to listen with an open heart. While I was pregnant many people including those closest to me were afraid, even offended, by my decision. A sweet old lady told me that if I were to keep the child and endure the struggles of single parenthood that I would at least

  • Placing My Baby For Adoption Has Given Him Twice The Love

    This guest post is by Shelby Craig, a birthmother.  Most people think at 22, a single mother can thrive. Don’t get me wrong, many can. But when I was unexpectedly pregnant, I knew I couldn’t give my son the things he needed. He needed parents who could give him everything, especially love. I had plenty of that to give him, but love is not enough. So I found two incredible people who were more than willing to welcome him into