8 Things I Wish People Wouldn’t Say To Waiting Adoptive Parents

This guest post is by Barb, a waiting adoptive mother.

The adoption journey can be a roller coaster ride. It has its ups and downs, good times and bad.

It’s important to surround yourself with people who support you and encourage you.

Too often, though, even well-meaning people will say the wrong things.

Sometimes, if you don’t know what to say, it’s better not to say anything.

My husband and I have been waiting to adopt for more than a year and-a-half and I’m pretty sure we have heard it all.

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How Open Adoption Has Expanded Our Family

This guest post is by Andrea Nagle, an adoptive mother. 

In October of 2014, after waiting a year-and-a-half, my husband and I adopted our beautiful little girl Olivia.

Her birthparents picked us the night we met them. They were young, hip kids and individual thinkers.

They said they liked that our adoption profile was interesting and had personality.

I had included things like our musical tastes which seemed to be a bit of a selling point for them as they liked some of the same types of music.

They also liked that we hadn’t tried to come off as perfectly polished, conservative, church-going people. To use their words, they weren’t looking for beige.

We really believed that being ourselves was important in attracting a couple that we could relate to, and vice versa. And so it was, in the end!

I was lucky enough to accompany Olivia birthmother during her final few doctor appointments and to be present in the birthing room when she delivered!

Together with her birth parents, we named our new baby Olivia Harlow.

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