Adopting a baby isn’t a competition. But sometimes, it can sure feel that way.
I was thinking about this the other day after I came across this advice column, Couple Reminded That Adoption Isn’t A Competition. Usually I don’t pay a lot of attention to these types of columns, but this one really struck a nerve with me and I think you might find it interesting too.
In it, an anxious and obviously frustrated hopeful adoptive mother says she’s fed up with “bidding” against another couple for a child.Continue reading →
Having a newborn join your family is exciting. But if you’re an adoptive parent, it can feel extra exciting.
Finally, all those hoops you jumped through and years of waiting have finally paid off.
Just think, no more worrying about updating your home study. No more fretting over your Google ads account. No more jumping out of your seat every time the phone rings, or wondering why your social worker hasn’t called you back — again.
Fingerprinting. Medical reports. Adoption training. Endless paperwork.
These are just a few of the many steps hopeful adoptive parents need to go through in order to be ready to adopt through private domestic adoption.
And that’s the easy part!
What isn’t so easy is all the other stuff people don’t tell you about.
My husband and I are “officially waiting,” and sometimes I feel like it’s a wonder we ever got to this stage—not because we don’t meet the criteria or weren’t willing to do the work, but because getting things done in a timely manner is a challenge in the world of private domestic adoption.
When we started our wonderful, yet often frustrating journey, we contacted several agencies and licensees to inquire about next steps. To our great surprise, not everyone responded.
Even more astonishing was the fact that during our P.R.I.D.E. training we learned that many other waiting parents had the same experiences. Continue reading →