“We’re Adopting!”: 42 Fun Ways To Celebrate Your Adoption Journey

Once upon a time, adopting a child was a closely-guarded secret, known only to a small circle of family and friends.

Today, it’s just another way to start a family — and, for many hopeful parents, a cause for celebration.

As one waiting parent explained, “Have you ever seen pregnancy pictures? If you have, then these adoption pictures are sort of the equivalent! We wanted to have pictures for our child that will show them the love and complete excitement we have awaiting their arrival.”

So if you’re just beginning your adoption journey and are looking for a fun way to announce your news, take a look at what other hopeful adoptive parents have done. Continue reading

9 Signs The Expectant Mother You’ve Been Matched With Is Right For You

 

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Congratulations, you’ve been matched with an expectant mother with an adoption plan. The placement is still a few months away but everything is going smoothly.

You couldn’t be happier. Or more of a nervous wreck.

On the one hand, you can’t believe how lucky you are. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the world know that you’re one step closer to becoming a parent.

But, amid all of the excitement, there’s a nagging fear at the back of your mind that things may not work out the way you hope they will.

You can’t help but think back on all of those stories you’ve heard about other prospective adoptive parents who were in a similar situation, only to be left brokenhearted after the expectant mother changed her mind and decided to parent.

After all, a match isn’t the same as an adoption. So before you go any further you want to make sure the same fate doesn’t befall you. But what can you do? Continue reading

The Hardest Part About Being A Waiting Adoptive Parent

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Adopting a child can be a wonderful experience. But waiting to adopt? Not so much.

Like any expectant parent, prospective adoptive parents have their share of worries. Will my child be healthy? Will my child be happy? Will I be a good parent?

But apart from that, waiting adoptive parents have to think about things that other parents-to-be don’t.

Here’s a list of some of the hardest ones, in no particular order.

1. Not having a set due date.

2. Always wondering if there’s something more you could or should be doing to speed up the process.

3. Asking yourself “why me?”

4. Hearing about someone else’s match and wondering “why not me?”

5. Remembering the person and the couple you were before you decided to start a family. Continue reading

Why Open Adoption Isn’t Confusing To Children

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For decades people have debated the effects of open adoption and whether ongoing contact was harmful to the individuals involved.

Of particular concern was whether it caused problems for children. Some argued that open adoption created confusion about who a child’s real parents were, which lead to issues with self-esteem and identify.

But now the co-author of a groundbreaking study on open adoption says his findings contradict these concerns and others regarding birth families and adoptive parents.

According to Harold D. Grotevant, the Rudd Family Foundation Chair in Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, open adoption

  • does not unsettle adoptees
  • does not increase birth mothers’ grief
  • does not exacerbate adoptive parents’ fears of losing a child

The way he sees it, open adoption requires a whole new way of thinking of adoption. Continue reading