Once upon a time, adopting a child was a closely-guarded secret, known only to a small circle of family and friends.
Today, it’s just another way to start a family — and, for many hopeful parents, a cause for celebration.
As one waiting parent explained, “Have you ever seen pregnancy pictures? If you have, then these adoption pictures are sort of the equivalent! We wanted to have pictures for our child that will show them the love and complete excitement we have awaiting their arrival.”
Congratulations, you’ve been matched with an expectant mother with an adoption plan. The placement is still a few months away but everything is going smoothly.
You couldn’t be happier. Or more of a nervous wreck.
On the one hand, you can’t believe how lucky you are. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the world know that you’re one step closer to becoming a parent.
But, amid all of the excitement, there’s a nagging fear at the back of your mind that things may not work out the way you hope they will.
You can’t help but think back on all of those stories you’ve heard about other prospective adoptive parents who were in a similar situation, only to be left brokenhearted after the expectant mother changed her mind and decided to parent.
After all, a match isn’t the same as an adoption. So before you go any further you want to make sure the same fate doesn’t befall you. But what can you do? Continue reading →
For decades people have debated the effects of open adoption and whether ongoing contact was harmful to the individuals involved.
Of particular concern was whether it caused problems for children. Some argued that open adoption created confusion about who a child’s real parents were, which lead to issues with self-esteem and identify.