Dear Birth Parent(s),
Thank you in advance for taking the time to look at our profile.
It takes a lot of courage and strength to consider adoption for your child.
It is with great appreciation for you and your child that we are pleased to share with you who we are and what we can offer as adoptive parents.
By doing so, we hope that we will be able to show you how wecould potentially fit into your child’s life, by giving them the tools, values, experiences, love, and support they would need to become resilient, strong individuals full of love and compassion.
Thanks again and take care,
Antoine and Tyler
Profession: Child and youth counsellor
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: Movies, the outdoors, arts, animals, swimming, family time, reading, baking
Profession: Policy Analyst
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: Board and card games, the outdoors, reading, swimming, tennis, badminton, softball, family time
Years Together: 10
Other Children: No
Pets: 8 year old shiba inu (dog)
Age: No Preference
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: No Preference
We are Antoine and Tyler. Antoine is 38, Tyler is 37 and we are both bilingual (English and French). We are married and live with our dog (shiba inu), Inuki (8), in Ottawa, Ontario.
By day, Antoine is a child and youth counsellor and Tyler works as a policy analyst in the Government of Canada. At home, we are a fun-loving couple that enjoys playing with our dog Inuki, playing board games, taking the time to sit down with friends and family, or simply enjoying each other’s company.
Antoine (according to Tyler)
Antoine is one of those people that can be described in one word, special.
Antoine is the close friend you move away from, but when you reunite years later, you pick things up and start laughing and smiling as if you last saw him yesterday. Antoine is the guy at family gatherings that all of the kids gravitate towards because he is fun, young at heart, and able to relate to kids at their level never saying no when they want to play. And Antoine is the son, cousin, and nephew that have everyone busting a gut at family get-togethers. These qualities also serve him in his career. His knowledge about child development, child psychology, and his ability to speak to kids at their level make him the most effective child and youth counsellor.
Even our current pride and joy, Inuki, has attached to Antoine in a way that is indescribable. It is for all of these reasons that I will never stop loving and learning from Antoine, and why I believe any child would be blessed to be raised by someone as special as him.
Tyler (According to Antoine)
Tyler is a man that cares for others and always has their best interests at heart. Because Tyler is able to see the good in everyone it leads him to have a positive attitude towards life and he is a true optimist. Laughter is so important in our household and his laugh is so contagious. I challenge anyone not to smile or laugh along when he gets going. Tyler is able to be silly when we are just goofing around and supportive when we both sit down and have a conversation. I love being married to this man; we have so much fun together.
Tyler is not only a great husband, gamer and athlete; he’s also an awesome uncle to our niece and nephew. Tyler is very present in their lives and I’m so thankful, because it allowed me to join in and be part of his family. We are officially the kooky uncles. From spending Halloween/Christmas together, seeing them play games outside or simply cuddling up on the couch watching a movie, we never miss a moment to participate in activities they enjoy. They are so very close to the both of us but it’s impossible not to feel the love when you see them with their uncle Tyler.
His ability to listen and share his thoughts in a supportive, gentle and respectful manner will be so important when raising and supporting your child. We both encourage and support each other in this way and although cliché, we really do make each other better for it.
Our Home & Community
We live in a three-bedroom townhouse in Ottawa, Ontario.
We live in an up-and-coming neighborhood that is home to many young families. Our neighborhood is full of children that play in the park and splash pad located just beyond our backyard.
In the summers and on most weekends, we spend our time at our four season cottage in Quebec, a 45 minute drive from our home in Ottawa. Our cottage is our getaway, and we spend as much time as we can outdoors doing various activities like swimming, hiking, canoeing, fishing, sitting around the campfire, and four wheeling.
We realize that something that sets us apart from other adoptive parents to-be is that we are a same-sex couple. We are both fortunate enough to come from caring, supportive families and have gained life experience that has shaped our parenting philosophy. Our philosophy is one that is filled with pride, acceptance and resourcefulness as we strive to offer your child limitless opportunities.
We have both dreamed of being dads from as long as we can remember. Through the combination of our adoption training, our life experience as well as the support of our friends and family, we are confident that we would be able to raise your child with all of the love and support they need to grow into a responsible, loving and thriving individual.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
Our goal as parents will be to nurture the great qualities your child will have and help them see how very special they are. We want them to feel loved, to experience new things and recognize how to accept and give kindness to others.
We believe in family time. There will be game nights; movie nights and time spent playing at the park. There will be times where we talk to and support your child through the rough patches that come with growing up. When your child is having a hard time we will take the time to talk to him / her and be there to answer their questions.
We both believe in using a collaborative problem solving approach when setting limits. When limits need to be set, we will use language they understand and ensure that our expectations are always age appropriate. This parenting concept is very important to both of us. As our child will grow up, it is expected that they will challenge limits. But because of our values and the experience we both have, we would take these opportunities to patiently sit and talk with them and together, we would come to an understanding that everyone would feel comfortable with.
We want your child to feel heard, respected and understand that their opinions and thoughts have value. Above all, we will be loving and empathetic with our child. We believe the key here is to be present in all aspects of their lives. Under no circumstances would your child be spanked or physically punished as a form of discipline.
Our philosophy on your child’s educational path and career aspirations will be based on the encouragement of goals and dreams your child has set. There is a big difference between encouragement and pushing, and we would not push your child in a direction they do not want, and we would never push them beyond their capabilities. Obtaining a certain educational level would not be a condition of love in our household.
Finally, our promise to you is that we will never burden your child with situations they cannot control; nor ask your child to deal with adult issues. We believe that kids should be kids for as long as they can.
As a closing thought, we would like to share our perspective on openness. Should you wish, we would love to open and maintain the lines of communication with you and build a respectful relationship throughout your child’s life.
Through various means such as pictures, letters, visits, and phone conversations determined together, we could keep in touch and share updates around how your child is doing. We would love for your child to know his birth mother/father because you are a part of him/her and therefore are a part of his/her culture, history and identity.
How we maintain openness and how many times we chat will be between all of us to decide when the time comes, but the one key piece we want to highlight, is how important you are to your child and to us.
We both want to thank you for taking the time to read our profile.
Antoine and Tyler