Hi, we are Anthony and Michelle and so great to meet you here!
We are a happily married couple living in the Greater Toronto Area and we are pleased to present our profile and the chance for you to get to know us better.
We are looking for the privilege of giving your child a home, should you choose us, and we would be happy to talk with you further on how you would like to be involved in raising them to their full potential.
Since we were married, having children was always the long-term plan, but by the time we had built a strong household foundation from our successful careers, God had a different plan for us. This development was certainly devastating for the both us, but it led and emboldened us to the dream of pursuing adoption.
We made this decision with our eyes and hearts wide open, and we have made an effort to make this dream come true. We spent the last year working with an adoption practitioner, taking the required training, and finally getting our approval from the Ontario Ministry of Children, Community and Social Services. We are ready.
Ethnicity: East Asian
Profession: Licensed Pharmacist
Interests: Writing, reading, travel, movies, music, theatre, basketball
Ethnicity: East Asian
Profession: Software Sales Executive
Interests: Travel, gardening, interior design, theatre, historical drama, swimming, basketball
Years Together: 19
Other Children: No
Age: Up to 2 years
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No Preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: No Preference
We have been together for 19 years and have been married for 17.
We are actually an early Internet dating success story, having connected on an online dating site. Though we came from vastly different backgrounds, we managed to click on our first date.
Mind you, our first year together was hardly smooth sailing, as we both had a lot of growing up to do and learning how to get along on a day-to-day basis. She’s a night owl, while he prefers to get an early start to the day. She is an optimist at heart, while he is a ‘realist’. She is obsessive on details, while he is more blue sky. Through the fights and the moments when it seemed that we were done, our love and bond became stronger, and we decided that we had found our soul mates.
Together, we have been each other’s biggest fans, cheerleaders, mentors, and shoulder in times of crisis. With the nature of our jobs, we have the good fortune of both working from home, which allows us to spend a lot of time together, such as meeting for lunch in-between conference calls or sneaking into each other’s offices to steal kisses throughout the day.
We both have great careers that allow us to work from home, with the only occasional need for overnight travel away from home. Anthony is a Vice President of Government Relations at a pharmaceutical company (and he is also licensed pharmacist), whereas Michelle is a Sales Executive at a large software company. Despite our busy careers, we do have quite a bit of flexibility in terms of being able to take time for personal chores or even days off when needed, either together or by tag teaming. These reasons are why neither of us are looking to change jobs anytime soon.
We both have post-graduate degrees in business that have built on professional/technical undergraduate degrees (Pharmacy for Anthony and Computer Science for Michelle). We both have a passion for learning new things and getting answers to questions that pop up in our day-to-day, so school was very enjoyable for both of us, and we hope that we can impart the same sense of wonder to a child that we adopt so that they can go where their curiosity takes them.
Anthony loves to read, write, and cook—his Spaghetti Alla Puttanesca would put him in a lineup with the best pasta chefs in the world, while his written works include a book on Asian cinema, multiple articles in various magazines, and even a section in an English textbook.
Michelle has the gift of finding beauty in everyday life and a passion for the arts, whether it be painting or her trend-setting interior design. Michelle is also very proud of the beautiful gardens she maintains at both our home and cottage.
Despite both of us having Asian heritage, we have adopted a Canadian cultural lifestyle, from Italian-themed dinners to cheering on the Toronto Raptors to appreciating the Scandinavian “hygge” lifestyle.
Together we have a passion for traveling around the world. We cannot wait to take our adopted child on our grand adventures. Whether it be Disneyland or Dubrovnik, Spain, or Iceland, every place we have visited over the last two decades has something special that we would like to share.
We both enjoy movies and theatre – so much that for her 40th birthday, Anthony surprised Michelle with a trip down to NYC just for the Hamilton musical.
We lead a semi-active lifestyle, particularly in the warmer months when we can work in the garden, go on hikes in cottage country, or play badminton in our backyard. Neither of us smoke and we hardly ever drink, except for social occasions.
As two foodies, two of our key pleasures are to try and cook up new things in the kitchen and to discover new and exciting food at restaurants in the Greater Toronto Area.
OUR LOVE FOR CHILDREN
We have always found it easy to get along with children and help out when needed, which has prepared us to care for your child.
This stems back to both our childhoods, where we played significant roles in looking after younger siblings (such as Anthony’s younger brother) and younger cousins (in the case of Michelle).
And with plenty of pharmacist, physician, and nursing experience residing in our immediate family, your child is in good hands.
Your child will be entering into an extended universe of family and friends beyond just Anthony & Michelle.
Michelle’s mother lives with us in our home and is excited with the prospect of being a grandparent, while Anthony’s parents live a short drive away, as are Anthony’s brother, wife, and their child. Beyond our extended family, we have a network of close, long-time friends (stretching back to high school) who are a phone call away.
With this extended safety net, there will be lots of new connections for your child to make and plenty of family & friends ready to step in to help out.
Our Home & Community
Your child will live in our home in a quiet and safe residential area, the happy place that we have spent the past decade in. Our home has lots of space for your child to play, stretch out, and explore, including their own bedroom (which will be lovingly designed by Michelle) and bathroom. We have also created a stimulating environment filled with art, books, and music to help your child expand their horizons and develop their intellect. And with both Anthony & Michelle usually working from home, someone will always be on hand to guide your child and keep them safe.
We are situated in a wonderful community where many of our neighbours have young children themselves, so your child will never be short of new friends to play with. We have 3 excellent schools within a 5-minute walk, including a school specializing in French Immersion, as well as numerous parks and open spaces to explore. We are also just 30 minutes from Toronto, the cultural and business capital of Canada, home to 2 world-class universities and plenty of opportunities for your child to make a life for themselves when they are older.
In addition to our home, we have a cottage in the woods of a gated resort in a picturesque cottage country, which offers plenty of fun outdoor diversions and opportunities for your child to make new friends, including a freshwater lake, hiking trails, and various sports facilities such as basketball & tennis courts.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We made the decision to adopt with our eyes and hearts wide open.
We are strong believers in discipline, which does not mean we believe in being overly strict parents. Instead, when we say discipline, we mean that the child will be brought up in a home that is structured (e.g., there is a time for eating, a time for playing, a time for learning, etc.) that is applied as consistently as humanly possible, and between both parents. When appropriate, the child will have responsibilities, privileges for following through on them, and consequences when they are not followed through.
Through our social network, we have seen good and not-so-great parenting at work. One of our neighbours has a great approach with their two children, refusing to use ‘screen time’ as a ‘babysitting’ tool and giving them more responsibilities as part of the family (without necessarily associating tasks with any reward). We hope that we can be great parents like them.
We both also have the benefit of helping raise a younger sibling (in the case of Anthony) and younger cousins (in the case of Michelle), which will certainly be of value. And as stated earlier, Anthony is a licensed pharmacist with over 20 years of clinical experience, having advised new parents and old during his 20+ years of having worked in community pharmacies.
Though we both work from home and Michelle’s mother lives with us, we still plan to both take staggered parental leave over the first two years of your child’s life to ensure that we are there for their formative years. Both of our jobs give us the flexibility to do so, and so your child will always have one, or more likely, both parents around at all times.
OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU
You as the birth parent have an important role to play in the upbringing of your child, and we are true believers in open adoption. In fact, Michelle’s extended family includes two relatives who were openly adopted, so this is ingrained concept in the fabric of her family.
We want your child to understand and embrace where they came from, to understand their cultural background, and to be part of a truly extended family. You have a critical role in making this happen, and so we can work with you to determine the best venues, milestones (e.g., birthdays, Christmas, your religious holidays, etc.) and frequency that will let you be a part of your child’s and our life as much you, your parents, and others are comfortable with. Whether it is face-to-face, telephone calls, Skyping, or texting, we are flexible in making contact with you, both before birth and in the years going forward as your child grows.
Thank you for taking the time to getting to know us, our life, and imagining the love, care, and limitless horizons that your child could have. We look forward to the honor of being part of the unending links of your child’s life that starts with you and stretches through the years to the wonderful person they can become.
If you have any questions or would like to get to know us better, please reach out to us via your adoption professional.
Bless you and your child, and we hope that we can speak about the needs of your child and how we can best meet them.
Anthony & Michelle