We can’t possibly come up with the right words to describe what you’re going through, but know that we admire and respect you for considering your options, and thinking of what’s best for you and your child. Whether or not you decide that adoption is the best path forward, we hope that you get all the love and support that you deserve.
Thanks for taking the time to get to know us–we hope one day we get to know you as well.
Profession: Delivery Service Representative
Education: College Diploma
Interests: Live Action Role Play (LARP), playing piano, biking, hiking, PC gaming
Ethnicity: Southeast Asian
Profession: Operations Manager
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: travelling, biking, hiking, singing
Years Together: 5
Age: 0-6 Months
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No preference
Special Needs: No
Type of Adoption: Open
I’m an avid gamer and love meeting new people. I recently began working as a Service Delivery Representative for a respiratory therapy company, delivering supplementary oxygen to patients in their homes and long-term care facilities. I’m happy to be back at work after being laid off last year due to COVID-19.
A big part of my life is my Live Action Role Play (LARP) hobby. I’m part of a group that meets every month to play through stories inspired by myth, legend, and modern fantasy films, living out the story with costuming, make-up and padded swords and shields. I also love role-playing with our young nieces and nephews and I take one of them on a LARP weekend every year. I can’t wait to share that experience with our child when they are old enough to do so.
I grew up in the Philippines and my mother passed away when was only 12. In 2007, I migrated to Canada with my father and two brothers. I had to learn to adapt quickly to a different climate, culture, and environment, but I’m thankful for the support we received from our large extended family.
I love travelling. I enjoy relaxing at the beach as much as touring historical cities. My favourite places are Mexico, Jamaica, Italy, and Greece. I collect fridge magnets from every new place I visit (they’re affordable souvenirs!) and love taking photos on my phone, which helps when capturing beautiful landscapes or just taking a good ‘ole selfie. I know I’ll be taking lots of photos of our child, something I would love to share with you.
I currently work for a financial institution and currently manage contact center operations with our international suppliers. The best part about my job is being able to connect with people from all over the world and getting to know different cultures.
How Our Lives Came Together
We met online almost five years ago, exchanged messages for about a month, then eventually met up for dinner.
Adrian: I loved how animated Rob got when he started talking about his LARP hobby. I’d heard about it before, but had never met anyone who actually did it, and I had lots of questions. Next thing I knew, we’d been talking for four hours!
Rob: When I met Adrian for the first time, I was struck by his sincere smile, his curiosity, and his willingness to learn about and try anything. He was so easy to talk to. I didn’t want the night to end!
We moved in together in 2018 and proposed to each other by the end of that year.
Something We Both Enjoy
Adrian: We spend a few weekends each summer at rented cottages here in Ontario, usually sharing the experience with two other couples who both have a young child. I will jump in the lake with the kids and Rob will create sandcastles with them. We also play board games and of course, build campfires at night to roast marshmallows and make s’mores! As you’ll see from our engagement and wedding photos, we love being by the lake. We find it peaceful and a great way to relax while being in nature.
Rob: For our honeymoon, we fulfilled a lifelong dream for both of us by travelling to Britain and Paris. We’re excited to take our child to different places and teach them about different cultures. And maybe Adrian can have another reason to finally visit Disneyland!
Our Home & Community
We live in a highrise apartment building in North York, with a multicultural demographic and several families with children. There’s a large park across the street that has a playground, splash pad and tennis court. Schools are walking distance away.
Adrian: At home, we share our chores. I handle most of the housecleaning, while Rob takes care of running errands and cooking. He loves making Adobo, a Filipino dish with chicken marinated in vinegar and soy sauce. Taco night is also a fun favourite!
Rob: Fitness is a part of our everyday life. I prefer going to the gym, while Adrian enjoys working out at home. We also enjoy biking around the neighbourhood, or on the trail close to our apartment.
On summer weekends, we do day trips around Ontario, often taking our bikes with us to enjoy waterfront trails in places like Hamilton and Niagara-on-the-Lake, or hiking in provincial parks such as Algonquin and the Bruce Peninsula. In the winter, we enjoy skiing, skating, or tubing.
We would love to encourage an active lifestyle for our child, taking them for walks and to the park, and enrolling them in activities that strike their interest.
Adrian: We also enjoy some downtime, of course! I will take an afternoon nap while Rob plays Minecraft on his PC. One show we watch repeatedly is Avatar: The Last Airbender. We think the writing is outstanding, and it teaches great morals and life lessons including finding your identity and forging your own path, something that resonates with both of us.
We love games!
Rob: Adrian usually wins in Fluxx, while I do well in Settlers of Catan. With Uno, we never know what’s going to happen; we can’t wait to have a third player so the Reverse card actually does something! I’m also a huge fan of role-playing games such as Dungeons & Dragons. I enjoy coming up with detailed settings and stories that will impact the characters the players have created. We hope to inspire creativity in our child as well.
Adrian: Music is a huge part of our lives. I usually find myself singing around the apartment and Rob loves playing classic rock and pop songs on his keyboard. I often sing along, especially when he starts playing “Faithfully” by Journey.
Families and Holidays
Thanksgiving and Christmas are the most important holidays for us. They might be spent in different places depending on plans for the year.
Rob: Whenever we visit my family in Brockville, we usually spend time at either of my sister’s places. One sister lives on a rural property surrounded by farmland, and keeps a few chickens in the backyard! Another sister lives in a small apartment in a quiet building. My mother has recently moved to Brockville, and loves doing cake and gingerbread decorating with her grandchildren.
Adrian: Most of my family live in Edmonton and holidays there usually involve large gatherings. The dining room table is filled with a buffet of traditional Filipino food from Pancit (a savoury noodle dish) to Lechon (roast pig). Cousins, aunts and uncles fill just about every room. We would stay at my older brother’s house, where we get to enjoy quality time with my family, including my adorable five-year-old nephew.
Rob: There will, of course, be years when we spend at least part of Christmas at home. We feel it’s important to share intimate family time and exchange gifts around our very own Christmas tree. Each year, we add a new ornament to our tree, just like my family did when I was growing up. We hope to display our child’s school creations on the tree in years to come. We also prepare Christmas stockings for each other. We look forward to filling a stocking for our little one from Santa.
Adrian: Halloween is another favourite holiday. Rob dresses up every year, usually raiding his LARP closet to come up with something creative. We picked a pumpkin to carve last year, my first-ever! We can’t wait to share these Halloween traditions with our child!
If you are from a culture that celebrates holidays other than these ones, we’re excited to learn about these holidays and traditions and make them part of our lives.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We’d like you to know that if you do decide to make an adoption plan, and you choose us as the adoptive parents, we will view our child as just that: both our child and yours. We will do our best to give our child the best life we can give them, through love, encouragement, and stability. In addition, we will do our best to honour your wishes for our child, including cultural or religious considerations, values, and beliefs.
We want to respect the kind of openness you’re comfortable with, and we recognize that your comfort level with openness may change. We are open to having visits and sharing emails and photos, and we are happy to talk to you about what would work best for both our families. If you need some time before you’re ready for openness, that’s okay too. At the very least, we would love to know about you and your life so we could tell our child about their birth family when the time comes.
Thank you so much for considering us for your adoption plan. We hope we will have a chance to meet you and get to know you.
Much Love and Respect,
Rob and Adrian