We can’t possibly come up with the right words to describe what you’re going through, but know that we admire and respect you for considering your options, and thinking of what’s best for you and your child. Whether or not you decide that adoption is the best path forward, we hope that you get all the love and support that you deserve.
Thanks for taking the time to get to know us–we hope one day we get to know you as well.
Ethnicity: Southeast Asian
Profession: Supplier Manager
Education: Bachelor Degree
Interests: travelling, singing, biking, hiking, babysitting friends' children
Profession: Delivery Service Representative
Education: College Diploma
Interests: Live Action Role Play (LARP), playing piano, biking, hiking, PC gaming
Years Together: 4.5
Age: 0-6 Months
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No preference
Special Needs: No
Type of Adoption: Open
Rob is an avid gamer and loves meeting new people. He recently began working as a Service Delivery Representative for a respiratory therapy company, delivering supplementary oxygen to patients in their homes and long-term care facilities. He’s happy to be back at work after being laid off last year due to COVID-19.
A big part of his life is his Live Action Role Play (LARP) hobby. His group meets every month to play through stories inspired by myth, legend, and modern fantasy films, living out the story with costuming, make-up and padded swords and shields. Our young nieces and nephews also love role-playing with him and he takes one of them on a LARP weekend once a year. He cannot wait to share that experience with our child when they are old enough to do so.
Adrian grew up in the Philippines. He lost his mother to a stroke when he was only 12. In 2007, he migrated to Canada with his father and two brothers. While he had to learn to adapt quickly to a different climate, culture, and environment, he’s thankful for the support he received from his large extended family.
Adrian loves to travel. He enjoys finding his way around a new place and appreciating beautiful sceneries as much as the different cultures and ways of life. He collects fridge magnets from every new place he visits and loves taking photos on his phone. We will have many photo albums of our child, something we would love to share with you.
At work, he manages contact center operations with international suppliers. He enjoys meeting with his partners virtually and getting to know more about them and their cultures.
How Our Lives Came Together
We met online four years ago, exchanged messages for about a month, then met up for dinner.
Rob: When I met Adrian for the first time, I was struck by his sincere smile, his curiosity, and his willingness to learn about and try anything. He was so easy to talk to. I didn’t want the night to end!
Adrian: I loved how animated Rob got when he started talking about his LARP hobby. I’d heard about it before, but had never met anyone who actually did it, and I had lots of questions. Next thing I knew, we’d been talking for four hours!
We moved in together in 2018 and proposed to each other by the end of that year.
Something We Both Enjoy
One thing we both love is being by the lake. We find it peaceful and a great way to relax while enjoying nature. We spend a few weekends each summer at rented cottages here in Ontario, usually sharing the experience with two other couples who both have a young child. Adrian will jump in the water with the kids, and Rob will create sandcastles with them. We also play board games and of course, build campfires at night to roast marshmallows and make s’mores! We love lakes so much that both our engagement and wedding took place by a lake!
For our honeymoon, we fulfilled a lifelong dream for both of us by travelling to Britain and Paris. We’re excited to take our child to different places and teach them about different cultures. Perhaps Adrian can finally have a good excuse to visit Disneyland!
Our Home & Community
We live in a highrise apartment building in North York, with a multicultural demographic and several families with children. There’s a large park across the street that has a playground, splash pad and tennis court. Schools are walking distance away.
We divide our chores. Adrian handles the housecleaning, while Rob is responsible for running errands and cooking. He loves making Adobo, a Filipino dish with chicken marinated in vinegar and soy sauce. Taco night is also a fun favourite!
Fitness is a part of our everyday life. Rob enjoys going to the gym while Adrian works out at home. We also enjoy biking around the neighbourhood, or on the trail close to our apartment.
On summer weekends, we do day trips around Ontario, often taking our bikes with us to enjoy waterfront trails in places like Hamilton and Niagara-on-the-Lake, or taking hikes in provincial parks such as Algonquin and the Bruce Peninsula. In the winter, we enjoy skiing, skating, or tubing.
We would love to encourage an active lifestyle for our child, taking them for walks and to the park, and enrolling them in activities that strike their interest.
We also enjoy some downtime. Adrian will take an afternoon nap while Rob plays Minecraft on his PC. One show we watch repeatedly is Avatar: The Last Airbender. The writing is outstanding, and it teaches great morals and life lessons including finding your identity and forging your own path, something we’ve both been through and hope to instill in our child.
Games are also a part of our lives and we look forward to playing with our little one when they are old enough. Adrian usually wins in Fluxx, while Rob does well in Settlers of Catan. With Uno, we never know what’s going to happen; we can’t wait to have a third player so the Reverse card actually does something!
Rob is also a huge fan of role playing games such as Dungeons & Dragons. He creates detailed settings and stories that will impact the characters the players are bringing to the table. We look forward to inspiring creativity in our child as well.
Music is a huge part of our lives. Adrian is always singing around the apartment and Rob loves playing classic rock and pop songs on his keyboard. Adrian often sings along, especially if Rob starts playing “Faithfully” by Journey.
FAMILY AND HOLIDAYS
Thanksgiving and Christmas are the most important holidays for us. They might be spent in different places depending on plans for the year.
Most of Adrian’s family live in Edmonton and holidays there usually involve large gatherings. The dining room table is filled with a buffet of traditional Filipino food from Pancit (a savoury noodle dish) to Lechon (roast pig). Cousins, aunts and uncles fill just about every room. We would stay at Adrian’s brother’s house, where we get to enjoy quality time with Adrian’s family, including his four-year-old nephew.
If we visit Rob’s family in Brockville, we spend time at either Rob’s mother’s house, or one of Rob’s sisters’ places. One sister lives on a rural property surrounded by farmland, and keeps a few chickens in the backyard. Another sister lives in a small apartment in a quiet building. Rob’s mother has recently moved to Brockville, and loves doing cake and gingerbread decorating with her grandchildren.
There will, of course, be years when we spend at least part of Christmas at home. We feel it’s important to share intimate family time and exchange gifts around our very own Christmas tree. Each year, we add a new ornament to our tree, just like Rob’s family did when he was growing up. We hope to display our child’s school creations on the tree in years to come. We also prepare Christmas stockings for each other. We look forward to filling a stocking for our little one from Santa.
Halloween is also very important to Rob. He dresses up every year, usually raiding his LARP closet to come up with something creative. We picked a pumpkin to carve this year, Adrian’s first-ever! We can’t wait to share these Halloween traditions with our child!
If you are from a culture that celebrates holidays other than these ones, we’re excited to learn about these holidays and traditions and make them part of our lives.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We’d like you to know that if you do decide to make an adoption plan, and you choose us as the adoptive parents, we will view our child as just that: both our child and yours. We will do our best to give our child the best life we can give them, through love, encouragement, and stability. In addition, we will do our best to honour your wishes for our child, including cultural or religious considerations, values, and beliefs.
We also want to respect the kind of openness you’re comfortable with, both for yourself and your family, and we recognize that your comfort level with openness may change. If you would like to, we would love to have you and your friends and family come and visit, and we will send you photos and regular updates if that is what you want. If you need some time before you’re ready for openness, that’s okay too. At the very least, we would love to know about you and your life so we could tell our child about their mother and/or father when they start asking questions.
Thank you so much for considering us for your adoption plan. We hope we will have a chance to meet you and get to know you.
Much Love and Respect,
Adrian and Rob