Thank you for your time and interest in learning about us as a family. Being parents is an absolute joy. Every day is made better with the sound of our daughter’s laughter, snuggling together with a book, and getting a wonderful, squeezy hug. Our hearts have grown so much since Ellie joined us, and we would love to share our love with another child–and Ellie would love to be a big sister 🙂
Profession: College Professor
Education: Masters Degree
Interests: Running, quilting, reading, sewing, moksha yoga
Profession: College Instructor
Education: Masters Degree
Interests: Board games, video games, reading
Years Together: 18
Other Children: 3 year old daughter
Age: 0-6 Months
Gender: No Preference
Ethnicity: No preference
Special Needs: Open To Discussion
Type of Adoption: Open
We met at college in January 2003, began dating in the third week of the semester, and have been together ever since. In April 2010, we were married in an intimate ceremony, surrounded by our family and closest friends. The wedding was held in the Stratford church where Adam’s grandparents were married 64 years earlier, and it was a blessing to have them serve as our witnesses.
We make a great team, and are a great support to each other in our lives and work. Before we became teachers, we travelled all across Canada to see each other perform in plays and musicals, and more recently we were careful proofreaders for each other as we both completed our Master’s Degrees. We’ve been lucky to work together in a variety of settings, and now teach at the same college, in the same program.
Adam has been teaching in post-secondary performing arts programs for almost fifteen years, and is currently a full-time college professor. Adam teaches musical theatre history, repertoire and performance, and singing lessons. His Masters research was focused on gender in musical theatre, and he is an advocate for Equity, Diversity, Inclusion and Accessibility in the arts, especially the post-secondary classroom and curriculum.
Adam is particularly fond of Canadian literature, especially the novels of Miriam Toews, Margaret Atwood, Michael Crummey, and Michael Ondaatje. He enjoys amateur photography, and spends afternoons with his mom and their cameras around Toronto or enrolled together in a photography course. Adam also loves superhero movies and has missed watching new releases in movie theatre with his high school best friend or our nephew in the past year. He’s a big fan of the MCU, and has been enjoying watching the new series from home.
Robert is a member of the dance faculty at several performing arts colleges and universities. After completing his Master’s degree in Dance Studies at York University, he has been leading the creation of several new courses at our college. Robert previously worked as a performer and choreographer, dancing in musicals all over Canada, from Vancouver, BC to Charlottetown, PEI.
Robert reads just about anything, but especially loves Agatha Christie and mystery stories. Robert loves games: card games, board games, and video games. Getting Adam to learn the basic rules of “Settlers of Catan” was a triumph; Robert’s still trying to get him to find the love of Mario Kart. He has recently taken to baking, and is perfecting artisan sourdough. Ellie loves to help Papa in the kitchen, especially making homemade pizza and mixing cookies.
Ellie is a very active and imaginative three year old. Ellie loves dinosaurs, playdough, playing with trains, and colouring and stickers. She loves singing and making up her own songs and stories. She has recently become more interested in nurturing her dolls, changing their clothes and making sure they’re fed. She loves books, whether she is curled up with Daddy or Papa, or “reading” to herself. Family favourites include The Gruffalo, and the books of Julia Donaldson, and Ellie loves reading about amazing women and inspiring historical figures. Her (ever-growing) book collection is inclusive and aims to be anti-racist, featuring families and characters of all genders, races, and abilities.
The Humber River is our “backyard”, and during our time at home in the past year we have spent a great deal of time exploring the forests and fields through all four seasons. Our time in the parks behind our apartment have been space for Ellie to learn to ride a bike, use her scooter, climb trees, and build snowpeople. She loves to splash in puddles, and the sound it makes when her boots are stuck in the mud.
Ellie also loves spending time with her grandparents. She has regular conversation via FaceTime with Robert’s parents in BC, who read her stories and hear about her day. Ellie also loves to visit Adam’s mom north of the city, where she can run around in the (very) big yard, use the swings, slide, and sandbox, and play with Titan, grandma’s friendly German Shepherd. This spring she also helped Grandma plant seeds in her garden, and is looking forward to watching the flowers grow.
Our Home & Community
We have been living in our large, two-bedroom apartment since 2011, and love it here. Our apartment is bright and sunny, with lots of windows. We have a spacious eat-in kitchen where we eat breakfast and dinner together–and we are looking forward to when we can host friends and family for dinner again post-pandemic. Our large living room is perfect for relaxing, reading, and snuggling on the couch, and Ellie’s bedroom has lots of room to play (and to share)!
We love our neighborhood. We live near Bloor West Village, and our building backs onto a large park along the Humber River. It’s a quiet pocket of the city which allows us to be easily connected to the things we love in Toronto (like our favourite sushi restaurant in the Annex), and lots of nearby playgrounds, shops, schools, and libraries. From the front door of our building it’s a pretty quick bike ride or run down to the lake, the subway is across giving us easy and environmentally-friendly access to head downtown, and we have a fairly short commute 30-minute drive from home to work in Oakville.
Our Thoughts about Parenting & Adoption
We are deeply committed to raising independent and curious children. Ellie keeps us on our toes, but we are thrilled that she is determined and adventurous. We have both inherited patience and cool heads from our parents; neither of us were raised with excessive yelling or physical punishment. We navigate the tough times by discussing our feelings, and always being honest. We prioritize consent and bodily autonomy with Ellie, so that she grows up understanding and advocating for boundaries.
Our teaching schedules allowed us to share child-care responsibilities for Ellie’s first year, and always have one of us at home with her, and we have been able to organize ourselves in the same way as we have both taught from home during the pandemic. Ellie started attending daycare at 18 months, and really enjoyed the interaction with the kids and incredible staff at our on-campus program. We plan on enrolling her in daycare again when we return to in-person teaching and we know that she will be safe and healthy. When we welcome a second child, we will arrange a similar plan for us to both be actively involved in parenting.
Our Relationship with You
We believe that every relationship is unique and is built together. We are committed to building a relationship that respects and reflects your needs and desires. We want to create that relationship with you as we learn about each other. We both strongly believe that growing our extended family will only add to the love for our child, and that more love is always a good thing.
We have been very fortunate to build our family through open adoption. Our family has grown, not only in the addition of our incredible daughter, but also our important on-going relationship with her birthmother. We continue to visit together several times a year, in-person or online, and share pictures and updates via text and email. Ellie’s birthmother and her boyfriend celebrated Ellie’s first birthday with our friends and family, and she is truly part of our extended family.
We love being parents, and we know that we have so much love in our hearts to share. We have deep respect for all the choices you have to make, and wish you all the best along your path. Thank you for getting to know us a little, we have our fingers crossed tightly that together we may be a good match. We would love to connect in any way that is comfortable for you. Our very best, Adam, Robert & Ellie