Adoption Blog

  • To The Prospective Adoptive Mother Who Worries She’ll Never Get Chosen

    We’ve never met but I feel like I know you. You’ve worked long and hard to start your family. When the fertility treatments weren’t successful—or maybe you skipped them altogether—you moved on to adoption, hopeful that the day would finally come when you would hold your baby in your arms. You completed your home study (if a house could get a medal for cleanliness yours would have won first prize), created your adoption profile, set up a special “We Are Adopting”

  • What To Expect When You’re Waiting For An Adoption Match

    This guest post is by Kristen, a waiting adoptive parent. I click on my email inbox. Yet again it’s empty. Or, as is more often the case, spam. The type of spam that advertises sales from a website I may have clicked on once, or someone trying to sell me medications not even suited to my particular gender. I scowl, delete it all and distract myself with checking over our baby essentials list. I’ve fallen into a routine of checking

  • Creating An Adoption Plan For Your Baby? 3 Questions To Ask Yourself First

    If you’re unexpectedly pregnant and looking at your options, you may be considering adoption. But how much do you really know about it? For most women with an unplanned pregnancy, adoption means “giving up” your baby and never seeing him again. “I could never do that,” they’ll say. The good news is, you don’t have to. Adoption has changed. Today, in open adoption, women don’t “give up” their baby. They make a plan — one that is tailored to their individual needs and created

  • 21 Things To Write About In Your Adoption Profile When You Have No Idea What To Write

    Imagine that the only thing keeping you from becoming a parent is writing your adoption profile. Sounds pretty simple. Just sit down and start writing it, right? But that’s when things get complicated. For starters, you don’t know anything about the expectant mother you’re writing to — who she is or what she’s looking for. You could make assumptions and write about what you think she’s looking for. But that won’t get you very far. You could be right. But more

  • An Expectant Mother Has Chosen You To Adopt Her Baby. Now What?

      Being chosen by an expectant mother to adopt her baby is an unforgettable event. Once it happens, it’s hard to think about anything else. You replay the moment in your mind again and again (and again!). You fixate on the delivery date until it’s permanently ingrained in your head. And you start making plans for the future. But no sooner do you think “I can’t believe this is happening. I’m finally going to be a parent!” than a new set of fears rears its head: “What

  • Why Won’t Alberta Let Us Post Our Adoption Profile Online?

    This guest post is by Valerie Bielenda, a hopeful adoptive parent. My husband and I are registered through a private agency here in Alberta and we’ve been on the wait list for almost three years now. I sigh loudly every time I think about it. We tried naturally to build our family for a long time too, but it just wasn’t meant to be for us. Realistically we could have had a 4- 5 year-old by now.  When we first

  • “We’re Adopting!”: 42 Fun Ways To Celebrate Your Adoption Journey

    Once upon a time, adopting a child was a closely-guarded secret, known only to a small circle of family and friends. Today, it’s just another way to start a family — and, for many hopeful parents, a cause for celebration. As one waiting parent explained, “Have you ever seen pregnancy pictures? If you have, then these adoption pictures are sort of the equivalent! We wanted to have pictures for our child that will show them the love and complete excitement we have

  • 9 Signs The Expectant Mother You’ve Been Matched With Is Right For You

      Congratulations, you’ve been matched with an expectant mother with an adoption plan. The placement is still a few months away but everything is going smoothly. You couldn’t be happier. Or more of a nervous wreck. On the one hand, you can’t believe how lucky you are. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the world know that you’re one step closer to becoming a parent. But, amid all of the excitement, there’s a nagging fear at the back of

  • The Hardest Part About Being A Waiting Adoptive Parent

    Adopting a child can be a wonderful experience. But waiting to adopt? Not so much. Like any expectant parent, prospective adoptive parents have their share of worries. Will my child be healthy? Will my child be happy? Will I be a good parent? But apart from that, waiting adoptive parents have to think about things that other parents-to-be don’t. Here’s a list of some of the hardest ones, in no particular order. 1. Not having a set due date. 2. Always wondering

  • Why Open Adoption Isn’t Confusing To Children

    For decades people have debated the effects of open adoption and whether ongoing contact was harmful to the individuals involved. Of particular concern was whether it caused problems for children. Some argued that open adoption created confusion about who a child’s real parents were, which lead to issues with self-esteem and identify. But now the co-author of a groundbreaking study on open adoption says his findings contradict these concerns and others regarding birth families and adoptive parents. According to Harold D. Grotevant, the Rudd Family Foundation Chair