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Adoption Risks: If You Change
Your Mind If you sense that they're not a good fit, it's better to end the relationship earlier than later. And never stay in a situation just because you're afraid of letting them down.. Your needs -- and particularly the needs of your child -- should always come first. At this point, legally and morally you have no obligation to them -- apart from being straight with them. You can do as you wish. Just make sure that you leave yourself enough time to find another waiting couple, if you decide that the one you initially chose wasn't right for you. Although the chances of a waiting adoptive couple
changing their minds about you are slim, sometimes it happens. And usually
for one of two reasons:
On your end, you'll want to make sure that they feel as secure about you as you do about them. You don't want to find out, one week before your due date, that they've suddenly got cold feet. Decisions like this don't come out of the blue. Usually, there's some kind of warning. Make sure that you don't get distracted to the point that you're unable to pick up on those warning signs. No matter how smoothly things go at the beginning, the closer you get to your due date the more nervous you'll be. You'll have lots of last minute fears about whether you're making the right decision and whether the couple you've chosen are the best parents for your child. One way to deal with your fears is to work out an adoption plan regarding your future contact. It's not legally binding, but you shouldn't promise anything you don't plan to honour. As for the delivery, they're never easy. But due to
your circumstances, yours will be more difficult than most. You'll have
to decide things that most new mothers never have to deal with:
You may decide you need to do both for your peace of mind. Just be aware that the more time you spend with your baby, the harder it will be to let go and proceed with the placement.
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