|
|
|
|
|
||
 |
 |
         |
|
Adoption Risks: Is Adoption
for You? Through your courage and selflessness, you have the ability to transform your helplessness into helpfulness and give a hopeful adoptive couple something that years of doctors, specialists and medical science couldn't: the gift of life. But first you have to decide whether it's for you.
Adoption today is very different from what it used to be, and probably
from what you think it is. Prospective birth mothers play a much more
active role and have a say in just about every step in the process. For
instance:
You should know that at no time will anyone force you to make a decision you don't want to make. If you decide to raise your child yourself, no one will try to talk you out of your decision. The most anyone can do is explain what your options are and let you do the rest. This kind of freedom can be a little overwhelming at times, but it can also be very liberating, particularly if you feel, as you may now, that you don't have many choices. The first thing you need to know about adoption is that, as scary as it may sound at first, adoption is forever. Unlike foster care, adoption is permanent. Once your parental rights to your child are terminated, there's no turning back. Which means that if you're feeling ambivalent about your adoption plan, now's the time to address it. In order to determine whether you're making the "right"
decision, you'll need to think about the advantages and disadvantages
of what you plan to do and try to project yourself into the future. You
may find, after going over your situation, that all the obstacles you
face are minor. At the same time, keep in mind that parenting is a huge
responsibility that requires all kinds of sacrifices and compromises --
to your education, career and social life. In the next few months, expect to be asked many questions and to think about issues that you may never have thought about before -- issues regarding your past, present and future. At times you may feel as if people are prying into your private life or doubting your motives. Don't take it personally. It's not because they're nosey or they don't trust you. It's just that adoption is a life-altering decision that affects many people. They simply want to make sure that you're comfortable with it.
Adoptive Parents | Birth Parents | Adopting in Canada | Waiting Parents Registry | Our Services | Discuss Adoption Contact Us: info@canadaadopts.com |
|||||||||||
