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QUICK FACTS

Phone: Gurjyot Rai 1.866.582.3678
Years together: 8
we live in: Vancouver, British Columbia
Our neighbourhood: Urban
Other Children: No
Pets: No

Our letter to you

We realize that if you’re reading our letter, you may be considering our family in your adoption plan. This is a significant decision for you to make, and we understand that any decision you arrive at is borne out of a love for your child.

Our profile is here to help you get to know a little bit about us and to help you on your journey. We would be honoured to be part of your adoption plans and would love and welcome a child in our lives.

Who we are

We are Steven & Vinay, a loving couple who have been happily married for over four years and together for over eight. We live in Vancouver, where we both were born. Home for us lies in a beautiful neighbourhood, situated close to the ocean and many parks and playgrounds.

It’s our plan to stay within the area, keeping us to close to our families, many of whom live in the lower mainland or within the province.

We have long talked of raising a child together, and have mutually arrived at a place where we feel excited, ready, and able to welcome a new member into our family.

Both of us have been raised in families with a rich sense of traditions and have carried that into our own relationship. We honour family gatherings and love our involvement in milestone celebrations, annual activities at different times of the year, and special holidays together. As we have been a family for a few years now, we have also started to form our own family traditions. Any child we raise we would also want to instill the importance of the bonds and connections formed by their involvement in family traditions.

In addition to our family, we are also surrounded by a large network of friends; some of our closest friends have young children of their own while others are planning on having babies in the near future. A child in our family would have lots of contact and playtime with our friend’s children. Many of our friends live within walking distance of us which will make play-dates a breeze.

Steven by Steven

I was born in Vancouver and was adopted at birth when my biological mother made an adoption plan for me. My loving adoptive parents raised me in a small town in BC, where a real emphasis was placed on outdoor activities right from my earliest years. Camping, hiking, hunting, canoe and boat trips, you name it. To this day, I love the outdoors and have a deep love and respect for nature.

I’m an engineer and I have an exciting and stimulating career where I’m called upon to apply my knowledge in problem solving and design. I love my work and find it deeply satisfying.

I grew up knowing I was adopted, but adoption files were always closed in those days. When I turned 19, I was able to request my original birth certificate and I chose to seek out my birth parents. I was quickly reunited with my both my birth mother and father, and I’ve formed an enduring relationship with them, as well as other siblings and a wide network of extended family members.

I firmly believe that one cannot have too much family in their life, if they love and support you. As a result, I have a large extended family, made up of many of them from both my adoptive and birth families. I’m so close to both my birth mother and adoptive mother that at my wedding, I walked down the aisle with one on each arm!

To this day, both my reunited birth family and my adopted family are major supports in my life, and they offer nothing but excitement and encouragement for me and Vinay as we begin taking steps in becoming adoptive parents ourselves.

Steven by Vinay

Not long after I met Steven, I knew that we had very complimenting personalities that assured me that we would get along so well together. Beyond being kind, generous, fun, and loving, his sense of curiosity and his wealth of knowledge is what really stands out to me. Most people use Google to find answers, but as for me and so many others in our lives, we all turn to Steven. This is just one reason Steven will make a great father. He will teach our children about nature, science, how things work, and so much more.

Steven is also someone who will always finish what he starts, and does not give up. Over the last eight years, he has encouraged me to do things that I never thought I would be able to do .This is another area where he compliments me very well, and is a quality that I know children can benefit so greatly from.

Vinay by Vinay

I graduated from university a few years ago with a Bachelor of Science and have been working for a utilities company since then. I began as a customer service agent, then moved on to a supervisor role, and now am beginning to work in management. The best part of my job is that I get to help people. When I first started, I was helping customers; then as a supervisor and now as a manager, I have moved on to helping my colleagues.

I was born and raised in Vancouver and this is the place I have always called home. What I love most about the lower mainland is its diversity— not only in its groups of people, but in regards to food, activities and events, as well. But one of the best parts of living here is that I have almost all my family and friends less than a one hour drive away. My parents are both of Indian-Fijian decent, and we have a very large but close extended family.

My fondest memories as a child were all the large family gatherings during special occasions, like birthdays, weddings, Thanksgiving, and of course (my favourite time of the year!) Christmas. There were also the impromptu summer picnics at local parks and beaches, which- if we were lucky- also included KFC! So many of these family traditions during childhood really help develop this love and appreciation for making special time together, which is something I’ve carried with me into adulthood.

Family is, has always been, and will always be very important to me. Steven and I began our journey as we formed a little unit four years ago on our wedding day, and I feel a deep sense of happiness and excitement as we move forward into the next chapter of growing our family together.

Vinay by Steven

Vinay is one of the gentlest, kindest and most patient people I know. He’s a natural around kids; my nephew and nieces call him Uncle Nay Nay and they always want to play with him. When Vinay is playing with kids, they hold his full attention as he patiently sits and play games with them without getting distracted.

As a partner, Vinay is kind and a great listener. When I need to talk over something stressful, Vinay will patiently listen to me and provides me with a safe place to talk things through. Understanding this about him, I know that Vinay will be a constant and patient guide to our children. He’s very calm, and will be there as a comforter for them, just like he is for me.

Openness in adoption

We will do our best to raise any child adopted into our family in a safe and loving environment. Nothing would make us happier than to see a child grow into a confident and well-grounded adult.

Both of us fully support openness in adoption. We feel that a child can only benefit from having knowledge of and contact with their birth family. Any opportunity for a child to have a healthy connection with their birth family we fully encourage, and are completely flexible in navigating those additional relationships. A child could never have too many people who love and support them!

I (Steven) have had to navigate these dynamics in my own life and can only emphasize the fact that having love and support from both my birth family and adoptive families has been nothing but positive for me. I would want the same for any child we adopted. Because of my own experience I am sensitive to the attachment needs that are unique to adoption.

On Family

Both of us have extended families that love and support us and are exited as we look at growing our family from two to three. Some of our siblings have already had children so there are other young nieces and nephews within our lives.

We’ve got fully supportive families who can hardly wait for us to adopt a baby; there will be no shortage of grandparents, aunts, and uncles, willing and able to support us!

Steven & Vinay