Welcome to our story. As we sit here to write this letter for you, our hearts are filled with emotion: excitement for what may come, empathy for the loving but difficult decision you are making, and hope for the bonds that we could build. We are honoured that you are taking the time to learn more about us. We can’t wait to share our love and lives with a child, and we hope that through our words and pictures, you will see that we would make a wonderful family for your child.
We know that you also have a story, and if you choose us as adoptive parents, we will cherish and honour that story always. What we would love most of all though, is for the next chapters of all of our lives to join as we share our love for your child over the years.
It would be an immense honour and privilege to become adoptive parents and we would accept our responsibilities to you and your child with great respect and commitment. Please read on to learn more about us, our lives, and our hopes for the future as a family of three, or more.
Chris was born in France and Lorraine in Southwestern Ontario. Our paths crossed for the first time in 2002 at a youth hostel in England. We had each left our homes, backpacks in tow, to explore beyond the borders of our own countries. While each communicating in our second language, we spent an amazing month together in the United Kingdom before heading our separate ways to continue our travels.
When it was time to say goodbye, it was very difficult, but we were committed to keeping in touch, and so, for the next five years, we maintained a long-distance relationship. While we missed each other deeply, there was never any doubt that we would spend our lives together; and so phone calls, e-mails and plane trips became regular parts of our relationship.
In 2006, Chris made the difficult decision to leave France and move to Canada. We were married in 2012 in a ceremony by a lake, where we spent a fun-filled weekend with friends and family.
Chris puts everything he has into all he does. Whether for work or for play, Chris always gives all of himself to the task at hand. I have watched over the years as he has excelled through determination and hard work, in school, at work and when pursuing his passions of music and sport.
Chris loves his job as a teacher and uses a combination of novel teaching approaches and consistent routines to bring out the best in each student. It would not be unusual to walk in on a French freestyle rap session in his classroom.
Relationships with family and friends are a priority for Chris and he would never hesitate to offer a helping hand. Chris is not afraid to say what is on his mind and to stand up for what he believes in. He brings fun and humour to everything he does.
As a partner, he makes me laugh even when I don’t feel like smiling, and is a calming and comforting presence in my life. As a father, I know Chris wold love unconditionally, and encourage your child to work hard, play harder, and stay true to who they are.
When I first saw Lorraine’s smile, I knew I needed to be with her. It only took me a week to know that we would spend our lives together. Lorraine is one of a kind and is everything that I would look for in a partner and best friend. Her honest and gentle smile is what makes her beautiful.
It is natural for Lorraine to take care of others’ needs before her own and so it is logical that she became a nurse. Lorraine is the smartest and most dedicated person I know. She excelled at University and has two bachelor degrees and a masters. Since graduating from nursing school Lorraine has used her skills in many different environments, ranging from providing direct care to patients to giving lectures to nursing students. During the Ebola crisis, she even travelled to the Democratic Republic of Congo to work with UNICEF.
Lorraine has changed my life and made me a better person. Her energy and strength are contagious. Lorraine will be the mother that every kid dreams of; she will be empathetic, fun, and full of love and smiles. Most importantly, she would always be there for your child.
We can’t wait for our home to be filled with the laughter and joy of a child. If chosen to be your child’s adoptive parents, we would ensure that they always have everything they need (which may not necessarily be the same as everything they want). We would establish routines and set appropriate limits, but give lots of freedom within these boundaries. We would look forward to continuing our family traditions, and to creating new ones with you and your family. We feel children should be encouraged to be independent while always having a home base to return to for love and support. We think children should have the opportunity to pursue activities that are of interest to them without being overwhelmed with non-stop schedules. Unstructured playtime should be ample to encourage creativity and independence. Regardless of what path is chosen in life, we would hope to send a child off on their journey as a responsible social citizen instilled with the values of kindness, respect, openness, and accountability.
Adoption would be discussed openly from the moment a child arrives in our home. They would know their adoption story and we would honour their birth family, who would always be spoken of with love and respect. Through our preparations to become adoptive parents, we have learned firsthand from adoptees and birth parents of the importance of maintaining relationships with birth families. We would look forward to you being a part of our lives, and us a part of yours; and ideally, for our relationship to evolve and grow stronger over time. If you choose us as adoptive parents, we would love for you to share your hopes and dreams for your child with us.
All of our friends and family members are excited to meet the new addition to our family and are delighted by our decision to adopt. Lorraine’s parents are retired and live in Central Ontario, on a large property that is great for snowshoeing, hiking and camp fires. They love hosting big gatherings and we always leave with our belts a little tighter thanks to Lorraine’s mom’s delicious cooking. They will eagerly make the trip to Toronto to help out whenever needed. Lorraine’s younger brother lives with his wife and their daughter in Southwestern Ontario, and we enjoy getting together with them regularly.
Chris’s family lives in France. His parents and younger sister live on the west coast, by the sea. His younger brother is a firefighter in the Alps. We have two nieces and a nephew in France, and we love our roles as “Tonton” and “Tata” to them. We visit at least once a year. Chris has many aunts, uncles, and cousins, and his family gatherings are always lively and fun. We are fortunate to have been able to welcome many of Chris’s family and friends to our home and have enjoyed sharing the beauty of Canada with them.
We have a large and diverse group of friends that we also count among our family. Chris has made good friends in Toronto, many of whom have also immigrated to Canada; and friends become family when you are far away from home. Lorraine has known her best friends since high school and they get together regularly. They all have small children who we think would make great playmates for your child.
We live in a detached house on a quiet street in Toronto. There is a lovely deck and fenced-in yard where we spend lots of time in the warmer months barbecuing and entertaining. There are two bedrooms on the second floor of our home, one for us and one for a child. We will decorate the second one when we know more about who will be joining our family. Perhaps we could work on this together?
Chris enjoys working in the garden, where he grows his own herbs and vegetables. There are many parks, schools, restaurants and activities nearby, along with trails that are great for running, biking, or just a leisurely stroll. The beach is just a short distance away and is a great place to spend a summer day. We love spending weekends close to home watching movies, cooking our favourite foods, running, biking and exploring our neighbourhood.
We speak both French and English at home, and often switch languages within the same sentence. French language and culture are also part of our lives outside our home as we have many Francophone friends. Chris’s family lives in France and we visit at least once a year.
A child in our home would grow up immersed in both Canadian and French culture. The backgrounds you and your child would bring to our family would be very important to us, and we would look forward to learning about, and celebrating, these with you.
We love trying new things and exploring other parts of Canada and the world. One of the things we love most about Toronto is that it gives us the opportunity to do this without even booking a plane ticket! We have both, however, been fortunate to travel to countries in Africa, Asia, Europe, and the Caribbean. These experiences have taught us openness, humility and adaptability. Most importantly, our travels have given us the opportunity to meet amazing people from many different backgrounds. It would mean the world to us to share these experiences with a child.
Thank you for the time you have taken to learn more about us; we would welcome any questions you may have. We would really look forward to getting to know you, if this is something you would like. Even though we may not have met, know that you are already in our thoughts. We wish you a healthy pregnancy, and peace as you search for your child’s family.
All our love,
Lorraine and Chris