We are James and Seppe, an active and caring couple, and are looking forward to welcoming a baby into our hearts, family and home. We can only imagine how challenging it must be to make such a significant decision about adoption, and we admire your strength and courage. We hope this letter gives you a picture of our life and plans for our future family, and would welcome meeting you to talk about this journey.
Surrounded by a loving extended family and a solid group of friends with young babies and kids, we would love to share our deep affection, energy and passion with a child. We are at a point in life where we have the emotional and financial stability to provide a vibrant and a nurturing life for a little one and are committed to take this next step and become dads.
We met seven years ago in Vancouver, and immediately started sharing our lives together and fell in love quickly. We learned early on that we shared common beliefs and values about family and raising children. After a large ocean separated us for a while, as Seppe was living in his native Belgium and James in his hometown Vancouver, we both became even more committed in our decision to build a life together, and married in Vancouver in 2013 where we currently live.
We both come from very warm and loving families. We each have a twin sister and Seppe also has an older brother and younger sister. They have all shown tremendous support preparing us for this journey and will be involved in our child’s life. Our parents continue to inspire us and are thrilled to contribute to a caring and supportive environment for our child as well. Seppe’s family lives in Belgium and we can’t wait to celebrate holidays together with family in Europe and make sure that the young cousins have an opportunity to know each other.
We intentionally live in a family-oriented neighbourhood with schools, parks and playgrounds for our future expanded family. We can see ourselves walking or biking with our child to the elementary school located two blocks away or to the neighbourhood park to enjoy the swings. Our house has a large backyard for lots of outdoor fun and play. James loves gardening and is currently developing a big vegetable garden that will provide lots of healthy veggies for homemade family dinners. Many of our friends and their kids live nearby so our child will have tons of playmates to share the fun. We look forward to taking extended parental leave from work to care for our little one at home and create a strong connection in the first years of his/her life.
As an adventurous, active, community-oriented and positive couple, we will encourage similar ideals with our child.
We have both traveled extensively together, on our own, and with friends. We have a passion for exploring new places, learning about different cultures and trying to understand more about the world we live in. Some of the adventurous activities we’ve done together include climbing volcanoes in Central America, river rafting in Italy, attending weekend music festivals, and visiting European art museums. We look forward to sharing experiences with our child, and have a chance to learn about and see the world through their eyes, go on adventures and discover new places with them; for one of our next trips, we’d love to travel with our little one to see the Andes Mountains and visit friends in South America.
Whether it’s on tennis courts, hiking in the mountains, riding our bikes around the city or enjoying the sun in parks and beaches, we thrive on being physically active and being outside. In the summer, we get out of the city and go camping and hiking with friends; in the winter, we go snowshoeing and skiing. We are passionate about the outdoors so much so that we made our wedding party snowshoe to our ceremony in the forest at a local mountain. Which was a lot of fun! We will be parents who stimulate our child to be active, play and enjoy the outdoors with friends. We will continue to go hiking, biking and camping with our child, making the necessary adjustments and accommodating our child’s needs and interests.
Through our jobs, we try to contribute positively to our world and our communities. James works as an urban planner and focuses on making healthy and local food more available and accessible in the city, and Seppe helps communities across the province to focus on sustainable development through tourism. Outside of work, we care about our neighbourhood and city. Seppe is involved with a cycling advocacy organization while James volunteers for a non-profit organization supporting mentorship for children. We want to get involved in our child’s school and after-school activities, and look forward to continue to give back to our communities to provide them with an understanding of our diverse city and society. We look forward to teaching our child to live life with an open mind, be curious about the world and show a positive attitude towards others.
We know an adopted child who understands their roots and origins and has opportunities to stay connected, has more likelihood to reach their full potential and build positive self identity. That is why we would love for you to play a unique and important role in our family and welcome an open and flexible relationship to a degree that you would like.
We hope to hear from you.
James & Seppe