We are Helena, Sunil and Mila. We live in the beautiful city of Ottawa with our pets Penny, Foxy and Miho. We hope this letter will help you catch a glimpse of our life and what it might be like to grow up as part of our family.
Should our paths cross, we promise to always be kind and respectful. We wish you a courageous heart and the loving support you deserve on your adoption journey.
We first met at Carleton University while studying Industrial Design. It was a demanding program, kind of like a creative pressure cooker. We spent days and nights drawing, building and testing ideas. Amidst the many failed attempts and ridiculous tangents, our studio had a way of cultivating incredible creativity and life-long friendships. Ours just happened to turn into love.
Within months of dating we discussed marriage, and soon after graduating from university we were married in July 2004. We were young, barely employed and excited about the great unknown ahead!
Growing our family has been a dream of ours from the very beginning. For a long time, we were so hopeful we thought it was only a matter of time … and eventually medical effort. In the meantime, we traveled, made incredible friends, designed and built a lot of things, became homeowners and pet-owners. We’ve been through hardships, grown close with family, cultivated our passions and grown into skilled creative professionals along the way … and still no child of our own.
In 2014, we decided to start the adoption process. Three years later, on April 20, 2017, Mila was born, and our lives were forever changed. Becoming parents has been our most joyous adventure of all!
My parents moved to Canada from Poland when I was just 9 months old. Soon after 3 siblings arrived, Daniel, Emil and Felicia, all of whom I adore and am very close with! My parents put all their heart and energy into our family life. My Mom stayed at home with the kids, the fridge was always stocked. My Dad provided for the whole family and fostered our interests with such enthusiasm it sometimes seemed like he was one of the kids 🙂 Each weekend we enjoyed activities as a family, hiking, cycling, swimming, soccer, skating, skiing etc. To this day I have a huge appreciation for being outdoors and staying active. I’m in the forest with the dog daily, and at the dance / yoga studio weekly.
After 10 years of working as a designer for the private and government sectors, I decided to become self-employed in 2012. The change in lifestyle is wonderful! I make an effort to maintain a part-time schedule, and I now have more time and energy to cook, garden, care for our house, health and family life.
Of all the blessings in my life, nothing compares to the gratitude and love I have for Sunil and Mila. I became a wife early in life and a mother later on … the time in between provided opportunity for growth. I am more self-aware, appreciative and at ease with life in general. I think these qualities allow me to be a more mature, loving and patient parent.
I was born and raised in Sarnia, a small town in Southern Ontario along the coast of Lake Huron. In the summer, my parents, sister, and I were on the tennis court just about every day, often times followed by a trip to the beach to cool off. By 18, I was a certified tennis instructor and lifeguard. In high school, I excelled at physics and math, but it was the arts that I identified with most. Sketchbooks filled up with illustrations as I absorbed as much music as possible. I started playing the guitar and haven’t stopped since, participating in countless musical projects.
Since graduating from university, I have been working as a product designer for a medical company in Ottawa. I started as a junior design intern – drawing, creating 3D models and renderings, cardboard mock-ups, building and testing prototypes. My role with the company has evolved over the years and I have become an integral part of the management / leadership team. It has been a very rewarding career.
The past two years with Mila have been incredibly joyful! Helena has been my biggest support and ally in navigating the adventures of parenthood. Together we have learned how to keep Mila engaged in the simple routines of our day to day life; to laugh when things go sideways; to relax when things get a little messy; and keep cool when Mila is not. Not a day goes by that I don’t dream of growing our family. Nothing would make me happier than to share all that we have and love with another little family member!
Mila is a hilarious, confident and energetic toddler. She is a very physically active and capable child, a quick learner and good communicator. She is excited to go to daycare every day and loves to visit with friends and family on the weekends.
Luckily Penny, Foxy and Miho all enjoy Mila’s attention … after all, who else would do Foxy’s make-up? or run laps around the house with Penny? And tell Miho stories while she naps? We have no doubts Mila will make an affectionate and enthusiastic big sister when we welcome a new baby into our home!
Home is where we feel loved, taken care of, safe, encouraged to grow, and to be happy. Over the years it has become an expression of our interests; stacked with books, instruments, frequent creative projects, and most importantly – great food! Our pets Penny, Foxy and Miho keep great company, adding joy to our day-to-day routines.
Helena works from home and Mila’s daycare is a 6 minute walk. Sunil’s workplace is 3.5 km away, which he cycles in the warm months. The neighborhood parks, splashpad, schools, community center, grocery store, dentist and doctor are walking distance. We’re located a 15 drive to downtown Ottawa, and 35 minutes to Gatineau Park, both of which we enjoy often.
We are blessed with incredibly loving and supportive families. Both of our parents share in the adventure of having immigrated to Canada with very little in their pockets, but great hope in the hearts! This positive and hard-working attitude has been passed down to the next generation. When we welcome a child into our family, they will instantly gain a great extended family of grandparents, aunts and uncles, dear family friends, and four cousins!
Our family values are shaped by the traditional examples provided to us by our parents, and also by the diverse, open and tolerant community we live in. Our child(ren) will be brought up in the Catholic faith with a sprinkling of Hindu traditions. As they grow, we will encourage them to learn about the world at large and to follow their own spiritual compass. We deeply respect every persons right to their own personal beliefs.
Our child(ren) will inevitably be introduced to the interest groups and communities we participate in; local dance and music culture, farming community and church. We believe that being a part of a supportive and diverse community of friends and family teaches the best life lessons of all!
When we adopt again, Helena is planning to take a year off work to care for our child full-time. Our long-term plan is for Helena to gradually return to part-time work from home, as we transition our child(ren) to day-care and then school. In Mila’s case, she arrived with just a few weeks’ notice and so we had to adjust our lives quickly. Luckily our work situations were flexibile and both sets of grandparents were on deck to help. It was a very joyous time filled with many naps. Mila started daycare at 18 months old, transitioning gradually over the course of 2 months.
We have made quite a few trips with Mila to visit family and friends in Toronto, Sudbury, Montreal, New Jersey, and Virginia. We have also taken family vacations to Mont Tremblant (2017) and Hilton Head (2018). We look forward to growing our child(ren)’s sense of adventure and world perspective through travel.
We believe that each child has a unique set of talents and are excited to discover their super powers 😉 Perhaps they will take to competitive sports? building stuff? music? leadership? caring for others? exploring nature? storytelling? Whatever their calling, we look forward to helping them discover who they are and what they love to do! We will do our best to provide a home where our child(ren) can feel loved for who they are and build a strong self-esteem. We will encourage them to pursue their passions whole-heartedly (as we do ours) with the kind of discipline and resilience our parents taught us.
We plan to be honest with our child(ren) about their adoption from the very beginning. We would be very happy to cultivate an open relationship with you! Of course, we look forward to hearing your expectations and making a plan that works for everyone.
We have a very sweet, loving and respectful relationship with Mila’s birth mom. We send her photo updates via email each month and visit her in Toronto twice a year. She is in our hearts daily and we are forever grateful.
Please know that our desire to adopt comes from a place of abundance and happiness and gratitude for all that we have. If you were to choose us to be the parents of your baby, it will be the greatest gift for us. We understand your decision as being a very selfless one and will ensure that your child knows it was made out of profound love for them.
We are incredibly excited to welcome a new little soul into our home!
With Love, Helena, Sunil, Mila & the Furry People