We are Golli and Bill. Thank you for taking the time to read our profile and learn more about us. We are a happily married couple looking to become parents through adoption. We are excited about adoption. It runs in our family history and we are honoured to continue the tradition ourselves.
We hope this profile gives you a good idea of who we are and what is important to us.
We met through mutual friends and connected immediately. In short order we were inseparable, staying up late playing games, going salsa dancing, and enjoying long afternoons in coffee shops, discussing everything and nothing.
We dated for three years and were married in 2013 in a small-ish ceremony surrounded by friends and family. Our wedding was beautiful, nerdy and a wonderful mix of both our cultures – it was totally us. We are an active couple who enjoys running and cycling, but you are just as likely to find us curled up watching Netflix. Creative pursuits are a big part of our lives, we love making things and sharing them with loved ones.
The core of our relationship has always been openness and honesty. We trust each other enough to talk about what we are thinking and feeling and we know that the other person will respect and honour those emotions. We feel this is an ideal environment to raise a child in. We also think we are hilarious. We live on a quiet, residential street in mid-town Toronto. Our home is a well-maintained three bedroom house with a great fenced-in backyard. We love working on our house, doing renovations and upgrades ourselves when possible, really making it ours. Our neighbourhood is wonderfully diverse, with parks, schools, community centres, farmer’s markets and other great things to see and do nearby.
Golli is the absolute best. I’m so lucky to have her in my life. Our house is made a home because she is there with me. Her kindness inspires me to be a better person. You know when you are at a party and don’t know anyone?
Golli is the kind of person who will come over to talk with you and make you feel welcome. She is fiercely loyal to her friends and family. If they need her, she is there for them. She is so supportive of everything I do. To have someone in your life who will unconditionally support you is such a wonderful and precious thing.
She is lighthearted and patient and goofy and supportive and warm and creative and funny and kind and I know she will make a fantastic mom.
When we are at a family function and Bill suddenly disappears from my side, I always know where to find him: in the playroom, kneeling on the floor, surrounded by delighted kids, racing toy cars or arranging farm animals or building a Lego tower.
Bill is the very best husband and he is going to be the very best dad. I wish I was articulate enough to explain to you exactly why. I can tell you that Bill is kind, supportive, generous, caring, attentive, excitable, funny, loving, reflective, creative, gentle, friendly, and assertive, but it still doesn’t capture it. I do know it to be true though, because I can see and feel it every day in all the small and big things that he says and does. No one else has ever made me feel so unconditionally loved and supported. Take my word for it, this is the man you want to be your best friend, your husband, and your confidant. And he is all that to me. And I know, for a fact, that to our kid he will be an enthusiastic, engaged, loving and occasionally perfectly dorky dad.
We have a diverse group of friends from a variety of backgrounds. We like to spend time with them playing boardgames, going out for dinners, watching a hockey game or relaxing at the cottage. Family is important to both of us. We are very close to them and see them regularly for family gatherings, home improvement projects and parties. Both sides of our family are very excited and supportive of our decision to adopt. Bill’s mother and uncle were both adopted and everyone has a very positive attitude towards adoption.
Many of our siblings, cousins and friends have young children. We will be relying on them for help, advice and playdates!
We have talked, read, researched and observed a lot about parenting in the last year and we have extrapolated these five core approaches to parenting:
Loving: All actions and words, including discipline, need to come from a place of love and respect for the child.
Being Attentive: Paying attention to a person makes them feel heard and valued. It instills a sense of worth and self confidence.
Encouraging Interests: Everyone needs to feel confident, that they are good at something. Between the two of us, we have various interests from music and science to sports, arts and handiwork. Children need to be encouraged to pursue interests, find out what they like and what they don’t. An eager to learn kid with open-minded parents makes for a more well rounded adult later in life.
Openness: We strongly believe in age appropriate openness with our child. It is our job as parents to guide and support them through the difficulties that life can bring, not to be deceptive to the person
who trusts us the most.
Spending Time: You can’t make strong bonds with anyone without spending quality time with them. It is important to make your child not just feel loved, but also liked and appreciated. We want to be parents because we want to be with our child as much as possible.
Above all, we need to surround our child with good role models. That includes us.
We believe (and we hope), that we can be great parents one day. The type of parents that you want to come home to, that make you feel loved and supported unconditionally. The type of parents that embarrasses you sometimes, but ultimately always want your best.
We are very comfortable with openness and maintaining a relationship with both birth and non-birth family members who may be important to our adopted child. We believe and understand that an adopted child has the right to know about their birth family and accept the importance of maintaining birth family connections as a life-long commitment. We are willing and happy to encourage contact with our child’s birthparents and birth family as we strongly believe that there is no limit to the number of people who can love or care for a child. Thank you for considering us We understand that this is an emotional time for you, as it is for us. You making this difficult decision inspires us to dedicate ourselves fully to being the best possible parents we can be.
Golli & Bill