Dear Expectant Parent(s),
We would like to thank you for taking the time to read our profile. We are Barb and Tony and we have been together for 15 years and married for ten. Family and friends have described us as fun, active, easy-going, and loving. We live in Toronto (East York) in a quiet community with world-class amenities at our fingertips – the best of both worlds! We live with our sweet and loyal rescue dog, Teddy. Being part of a large, loving family and having amazing friends whom we can always count on is very important to us and we feel lucky to have such people in our lives. They have been supportive of us throughout this journey and they are excited to welcome your child into their lives with open arms.
We have always looked forward to having a family and we are excited about becoming parents through adoption. Having a biological child is not an option for us as Tony is a carrier of a cancer gene that we do not wish to pass down. Love is what makes a family, not DNA! Just because Tony carries the gene doesn’t mean he will get sick. In fact, because his doctor knows about his condition and because Tony gets tested regularly, if anything were to happen, it will be caught super early on. He’s ahead of the game! He does his best to live a healthy lifestyle (more about that later on) and takes good care of himself.
We found each other online – out of all places – in December of 2002 and exchanged numbers. For two weeks, we spoke on the phone for hours on end and had so much in common, we had to meet in person. We dated for nine months before realizing this was “it” and we have been inseparable ever since. Our wedding took place in August of 2007 among our family and friends. Our philosophies on life mesh well and we have a ton in common. We are truly best friends and we always have each other’s back. Our relationship is made up of love, laughter, trust, respect, openness, and kindness.
Barb is Caucasian. She is 36 years old and has a slim, petite build. She has light brown hair and brown eyes. She has a huge smile and a very friendly personality. She is outgoing and fun to be around. She has spent most of her life in Ontario but was born in Budapest, Hungary. She had the privilege of growing up in different parts of the world, including Africa and Germany, before finally settling in Canada at the age of nine. Barb is fluent in Hungarian. She is proud to be a Canadian Citizen and feels fortunate to have grown up here.
Barb has fond memories of her childhood. Time together as a family was always a priority. They would take many road trips together to explore different parts of Ontario. One family tradition that started many years ago and still continues to this day is sitting around the table together while Barb’s dad is cooking. Everyone teases him because the food is never ready by the time people arrive. This is because Barb’s dad loves to prepare the meal while he is surrounded by his family. He puts his heart and soul into every dish and he draws inspiration from his loved ones. He recalls family stories and everyone loves hearing them.
Summers were spent playing baseball on the street with the neighbourhood kids. Barb and her brother were active kids and would enjoy biking everywhere together. They also delivered the local newspaper in their neighbourhood for a year in elementary school. She played the clarinet in grade school and sang in the choir in high school.
Barb has two diplomas from Seneca College: one in Social Service Work and the other, Executive Office Administration. After graduating from college in 2002, she worked in healthcare for many years, specifically in nursing homes and retirement communities. She is a patient, compassionate, and nurturing person and this is what led her to pursue this type of work. Despite her desire to help others, Barb didn’t enjoy this line of work as much as she hoped she would. A large part of her feeling this way was due to working a lot of evenings, weekends, and holidays and not having enough time for family and friends. Barb believes that it’s never too late to make a change so, after 12 years in a career she disliked, she took her own advice. She knew that she wanted to do administrative work and ended up giving up her career to become a student again. Today, she works in the real estate field as the Executive Assistant to the President of a property management company. Barb works close to home and even though she generally works 9 to 5, she has the flexibility to work 8 to 4 (or 7 to 3) or to leave early when needed. We feel this is beneficial for family life. Barb is passionate about her career and enjoys a healthy work-life balance. She never works on evenings, weekends, or holidays. That’s family time!
Barb is so kind, caring, and loving that I know she will make a fabulous mother.
Barb has a younger brother who is a police officer. They have a very close relationship, keep in touch regularly, and make it a point to get together at least once every couple of months. He is married and lives in Mississauga.
Barb’s parents also live in Mississauga (in the house she grew up in). Her mom is a librarian and her dad, an engineer. Barb enjoys a close relationship with her parents. She and her dad have a tradition of catching up on the phone at least once a week. He lovingly calls her MDD which stands for My Dearest Daughter. Nobody can remember how this nickname came about but it has stuck over the years.
Barb has a very large extended family in Europe. She flies to Hungary every few years and her family also makes visits to Canada.
Tony is Caucasian Canadian of Portuguese descent. He is a fit 46-year-old with dark hair and brown eyes. Tony is friendly, outgoing, and has a great sense of humour. He is determined and doesn’t give up easily. He was born in a small town and has spent most of his life in a big city. He speaks fluent Portuguese.
Like most typical Canadian boys, he played street hockey non-stop, dreaming about one day playing in the NHL. One of his fondest childhood memories is his birthday celebrations. His parents invited all the neighbourhood kids and set up a surprise party filled with cake and games. Of course, it always ended in a game of street hockey.
Family dinners were a regular occurrence and after the meal, the kids went off to play Yahtzee and Monopoly for hours. In the winter, the kids spent a lot of time at the local parks tobogganing, skating, and taking part in snowball fights.
Tony graduated from George Brown College and works as an HVAC Technician for a large, established Canadian company. He’s been there for over 18 years. Being in the heating and air conditioning industry has allowed him to meet and help many people over the years. He is an enthusiastic, honest, and reliable person and this has come in handy during the course of his career. His work challenges him on a regular basis, allowing him the opportunity to upgrade and expand his skills and knowledge.
Tony is patient, supportive, and fun-loving. I have no doubt that he will be an incredible father.
In Tony’s words: When we first met, there was an instant connection but it wasn’t until about a year later that we knew we were a perfect match for each other. I underwent an operation on my spine and Barb was with me at every possible moment. After I was released from the hospital, I stayed with my parents for a few weeks so that I wouldn’t be alone. Barb used to come over after work to help me bathe and to make sure I was OK. It was during these times that I knew she really loved me as she saw me in my most vulnerable state and didn’t care. This was a difficult time for me but I was able to get through it with Barb by my side and ultimately, this experience brought us closer together.
Tony is fortunate to come from a family of loving parents and five children, most of whom were born in Portugal. He found it great growing up with four siblings and a large extended family. It taught him the importance of sharing, supporting each other, love, and trust.
Even though Tony’s parents have passed away, they were a great influence on the person he is today. They were hard-working and always put their children first. His mom and dad’s relationship and parenting skills set a great example for Tony to follow. We miss them very much and think of them every day.
Tony has a brother and two sisters who live nearby with their families, as well as countless cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces, and nephews, making family get-togethers memorable.
We are both in great health and have a lot of energy. We feel fortunate that we have not had to deal with any major health issues. We are an active couple who enjoys biking, going for walks and hikes, and spending time in the garden in the warmer months. Our city offers tons of festivals and events that we like to attend, as well as lots of green space to explore.
Barb is vegan and Tony is vegetarian. It’s important for us to live a healthy lifestyle. Therefore, we use all-natural personal care products and most of the household products in our home are chemical-free.
In the colder months, we enjoy skating and attending winter events such as the Christmas market at the Distillery District. We like to curl up on the couch to watch movies and documentaries while drinking hot chocolate.
We both enjoy reading, spending time with family and friends, trying out new restaurants, and cooking and baking together.
We support a lot of animal charities and rescues and we visit a new sanctuary each summer.
Whether it’s traveling to a foreign country or staying closer to home, we love learning about different cultures and exploring new places. We look forward to sharing these experiences with your child, as well as taking part in his or her own interests and hobbies.
Barb enjoys running and swimming when the weather is nice. She is fascinated by aviation, loves photography, and enjoys a wide variety of music, especially new country.
Tony likes to go inline skating and spending time on projects around the house, both inside and out. He loves watching hockey, likes a wide variety of music (especially rock) and movie genres, and when his favourite bands are in town, he always makes time to attend the concerts.
We were so incredibly lucky to share our life with Gretzky, a Labrador Retriever, for 12 years. He brought so much happiness to our lives. Sadly, he passed away in April of 2017 and we are so heartbroken. Unfortunately, no matter what, nothing will bring our sweet Gretzky back. Our hearts are huge and will always have room for animals to love and so, a couple of months later, we adopted a rescue dog named Teddy. He is a gentle, playful, happy-go-lucky three-year old Sheprador. He’s amazing with kiddos and loves to cuddle. He enjoys his three walks a day and he loves to run around at the leash-free park with his friends.
We own a cozy detached, 2-storey home with three bedrooms and two bathrooms. The backyard is large and fully fenced-in with a locked gate, waiting for a swing set and a sand box. It is the perfect spot for BBQ’s, family gatherings, and relaxing. There are many flowers and plants throughout and lots of grass to play on.
The layout of our home is family-friendly and comfortable. The main floor is open concept which will allow us to keep an eye on your child from any room.
Our neighbourhood is quiet, child-friendly, and there are many schools, parks, and bike trails nearby. The beaches of Lake Ontario are a short 10-minute drive away. There are lots of opportunities for children to participate in various activities and to discover and explore their passions. Our home is within walking distance to several playgrounds; hockey rinks; a swimming pool; a baseball field; martial arts and dance studios; and a good old-fashioned library. Also, there are tons of restaurants and cafés nearby to suit everyone’s taste.
We have amazing neighbours who have become friends. We help out by walking each other’s dogs when needed and keeping an eye out and collecting each other’s mail when someone is on vacation. There is a great sense of community in our neighbourhood and people know each other by name.
We were both raised as Roman Catholics; however, we are non-practicing and we don’t identify with a particular religious belief. Our families’ faith and views have shaped our values and morals. Our motto in life is simple: treat others the way you wish to be treated. We will educate your child about and expose him or her to world religions so that he or she can decide for him/herself what path to choose.
A few times a year, we do attend church with family for special occasions. We celebrate holidays including Christmas and Easter. These times are shared with our loved ones.
Christmas Eve is spent with Tony’s side of the family. There are usually about 15 of us and it’s an evening filled with tons of food, games, presents, and laughter. Christmas Day is with Barb’s family. We eat a huge dinner (there’s something for everyone) and then open presents by the fireplace. Once we are ready to eat again, it’s time for dessert!
We are both fortunate to have successful and stable careers that we love and we are responsible with our finances. We feel that we have the tools in place to raise your child with the best possible opportunities. We both have life insurance, health and dental benefits, and RRSP’s. Tony also has a pension plan.
We both grew up in loving and supportive households. Our parents patiently guided us through the ups and downs of growing up. They allowed us to explore our interests, encouraged us to pursue our dreams, and were always there for us, no matter what. They instilled in us confidence, fairness, and compassion and taught us the importance of equality. If you were to choose us to parent your child, we will raise him or her with the same values. He or she would grow up surrounded by lots of children including our nieces and nephews, our friends’ kids, and the countless kids in our neighbourhood. We would expose your child to many leisure activities and allow them to choose their own path.
– Raising a child in a loving, supportive, and nurturing environment where he or she can explore interests and opportunities and learn that the possibilities are endless
– Patience, trust, respect, open lines of communication
– Promoting a healthy lifestyle, physically and emotionally
– Spending time together as a family and celebrating milestones and holidays/special moments
– Preparing your child for the rewards and challenges of growing up
– The importance of getting an education inside and outside of the classroom
– Teaching that being different is not a bad thing
– Teaching your child to be proud of him/herself and where he/she comes from
– Listening to your child and giving him/her a voice
– Treating negative situations as learning experiences and opportunities to grow
– Using healthy discipline methods and positive language
– We do not believe in corporal punishment. Instead, we will set good examples and use redirection and explanations.
– We will reward your child for good behaviour.
We vow that your child will feel safe, loved, cared for, and happy. We will love your child absolutely unconditionally, no matter what. Your child will have the freedom to discover his or her unique individuality, which we feel is so important to a child’s growth and development. Whether it be playing sports, taking music lessons, or learning a new language, we will support his or her hopes and dreams. We will check for monsters under the bed. We will leave cookies and milk out for Santa and check for reindeer tracks in the snow. We will make sure your child gets more treats than tricks on Hallowe’en.
We would be so honoured to meet with you and learn your hopes and dreams for your child. We will work together with you to identify an adoption plan that you are most comfortable with. We see the value of an open adoption and having the child’s biological parent(s) be part of our lives. We understand that as your child grows, he or she will have questions about his or her identity, where he or she comes from, or who he or she looks like. We will do everything in our power to inform your child of his or her roots and we promise to always be open and encourage questions. We look forward to sharing a life book with your child so that he or she can learn about his or her family history and background. We would love for you to be there to share in the many milestones, holidays, and events that we will celebrate throughout the years. We are looking forward to sharing in a name and keeping in touch through emails and visits. However, we want you to know that we will respect whatever level of openness you choose.
We would also like you to know that we are aware of the adoption disclosure legislation which allows adoptees and birth parents to obtain information from the Office of the Registrar General once your child turns 18. Of course, we would hope to never lose contact with you.
We plan to evenly split the parental leave and we will ensure that one of us will be home for at least the first year of your child’s life.
After the first year, we plan to use the services of a licensed daycare in addition to the generous help offered by our families. Between the two of us, we have ample vacation and personal time available through work. We also have very supportive and understanding bosses who are aware of our adoption plans. Taking time off work, even with short notice, will not be an issue.
We truly appreciate you taking the time to get to know us a little better. We wish you all the very best on your journey to find the perfect family for your baby.
Barb and Tony