Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us as potential adoptive parents. We’d be so excited to meet you and answer any questions you may have for us.
We met one rainy November evening in 2014 in Toronto after matching on Tinder. Graham was charmed by Alex’s adorable French-Canadian accent, and Alex liked the way Graham constantly made him laugh. One year later, we moved in together and adopted our dog, Henri. Our house has become the go-to gathering place for family and friends, and we love nothing more than spending a weekend on the water at our cottage.
Graham, 29, is a creative person who enjoys curling up on the couch with a good book. He works as a journalist for a national news agency. Alex, 31, is a dreamer who loves spending his free time planning our next holiday or swimming at the local pool. He works as a lawyer for a global law firm. Together, we each offer something a little different for your child: a mix of creativity, structure and, most importantly, happiness.
Both of us have always wanted to be fathers, and adoption has always seemed like the natural choice. We decided to start this process now, while we are young, because we want to be active parents with lots of energy for your child. Graham comes from a blended family with two half-brothers, and his family fostered children for several years. For him, family has everything to do with the connections you build together.
Alex feels the same way. He’s excited by the idea of adding a new member to our family and his parents couldn’t be more thrilled to be becoming grandparents.
Financially, we’re fortunate to have solid careers in our fields that give us the resources and time to raise a child. We have life insurance, home insurance and ample savings for a rainy day.
We might seem pretty different at first: a journalist and a lawyer, a Francophone and an Anglophone. But beyond that, the two of us are connected by shared values.
We’re both easy-going people who are happiest at the beach. At the same time, we’re both motivated in our careers and have professional goals. Graham dreams of getting published in the New Yorker one day, and Alex wants to become general counsel of his firm. Both of us loved school, and we hope to pass along this love of learning to your child.
While we both enjoy keeping busy, we also make sure to keep empty days on our calendar to recharge. For Graham, this means reading or writing, while Alex unwinds by swimming or hanging out with friends.
The most important lessons our parents taught us were how to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. We were both raised with religion in our lives: Alex was baptized Catholic, Graham in the United Church of Canada. We still live by the values of our faiths, but we do not consider ourselves practicing Christians.
Graham grew up in Kingston, Ontario in a family of six: his mom, dad and three brothers. He was always an avid reader and knew he wanted to become a writer one day.
Growing up, Graham’s family was a foster family, and he learned from an early age that families come in all shapes and sizes. This was a really positive experience for his family, and because of this, Graham always pictured himself starting a family through adoption.
After high school, Graham moved to Toronto for university, where he studied journalism and earned a Masters degree in creative writing. Now a journalist for a national news agency, he covers everything from federal politics to pop culture.
Friendships are really important to Graham, and he considers his closest friends an extension of his family. He’s started a book club, created an arts magazine and travelled around the world with some of his closest friends.
Alex grew up in Riviere Beaudette, a small lakeside town in Quebec. He has a twin brother, Marc-Antonie, and the two of them spent countless afternoons swimming or water-skiing on the lake.
After graduating high school, Alex won several scholarships that allowed him to study law in Montreal, New York City and Singapore, and he earned two Masters degrees. He now works as an in-house lawyer for a global firm in downtown Toronto. Fluent in English and French, Alex is strongly connected to his Quebecois culture, and he has built a community of fellow Francophones in Toronto.
While Alex enjoys the hustle and bustle of downtown, he’d describe myself as a homebody who enjoys nothing more than hosting a group of friends at home for dinner. (He’s kind of a grill-master, if he does say so himself.)
Becoming a dad has always been one of Alex’s biggest dreams, and what attracts him most to adoption is the focus on openness. His French-Canadian background is a big part of who he is, and he believes it’s essential for a child to have a strong connection to where they come from.
We live in a diverse, family-friendly neighbourhood in Toronto’s east end. When we first saw our house, we fell in love with the big backyard, and we spend plenty of summer evenings barbecuing or playing lawn bowling. With four bedrooms, it’s easy for us to host family and friends for the weekend, and our close access to the subway makes getting downtown easy. Overall, our home is bright and cozy with big windows and lots of greenery.
Our house is a three-minute walk to the local elementary school and middle school, and a five-minute walk to the nearest high school. We chose this house because we loved the idea of a child being able to walk to school from kindergarten to Grade 12 and live in the same neighbourhood as their friends.
We love our close access to the local swimming pool, parks, the ravine and most especially Woodbine Beach, where we often spend summer afternoons. We both grew up playing outdoors, and we think it’s important for children to have access to playgrounds and green spaces.
We are lucky to have two cottages, where we spend many of our weekends together.
Our summer cottage is tucked beside a quiet lake. Days at the cottage often involve kayaking, playing cards or swimming to the nearby lighthouse. It’s not unusual for one of Alex’s cousins to randomly pop by for lunch.
Our winter cottage is located in the mountains north of Montreal. It’s a warm and cozy home with two fireplaces, four bedrooms and it’s often the place where our families gather for Christmas. We both enjoy skiing, and the cottage is a short walk to the bottom of the chairlift.
From day one, your child would know who they are and where they come from. In other words, there would never be a big “adoption reveal.” We believe this is essential to fostering a sense of identity. It’s important for us that your child be proud of who they are.
Parenting and discipline are topics we’ve read a lot about. The way we see it, positive reinforcement is the best way to encourage a child to grow. We’ve also met with other adoptive parents who’ve given us helpful advice on the unique dynamics involved in parenting an adopted child. We have a great support network backing us up.
We both loved school — we definitely fit into the “nerd” category — and your child would have two very keen homework helpers. We both have Masters degrees, and we will support your child to obtain as much education as they want. Graham is a creative person and Alex has a more traditional academic background, and we see value is both the artistic and scholarly sides of learning. Whatever your child wants to grow up to be one day, we’ll be their biggest cheerleaders.
In terms of childcare, we’ll take a year off work: Graham the first eight months, Alex the last four months. After that, we both have the ability to work from home, and we plan on enrolling your child in pre-school to foster early social development.
Thank you for taking the time to read our story. We’d love to meet you and answer any questions you may have for us. Regardless, we genuinely hope you find the perfect fit for you and your child.