Thank you for your time and interest in learning about us as a couple, and as hopeful prospective parents. We are a family-oriented, fun-loving, and artistic couple. Both of us are college instructors, and previously we both worked as professional musical theatre performers. We’ve been together for 15 years, and were married eight years ago.
Ever since we first met and fell in love, we’ve planned on being parents. We’ve been certain our entire lives that having children is a priority. We have loved being adoring uncles, and are eager to be fathers. We know we will provide a safe, loving, and supportive home for a child, and are excited to grow our family.
We met at college in January 2003, began dating in the third week of the semester, and have been together ever since. In April 2010, we were married in an intimate ceremony, surrounded by our family and closest friends. The wedding was held in the Stratford church where Adam’s grandparents were married 64 years earlier, and it was a blessing to have them serve as our witnesses.
Though our daily roles shift as we undertake new projects, Adam tends to be “on the go”, while Robert is more of a homebody. Adam generally takes care of decorating and the household budget, and Robert runs the kitchen, finding new vegetarian recipes, buying groceries, and often making fresh bread (and is usually singing the whole time).
We both like an organized home, but have slightly different ideas of what that means. Adam keeps our book collection in alphabetical order, with fiction separated from non-fiction, like the Dewey Decimal System. Robert prefers that laundry be folded and put away as soon as it’s dry (as opposed to leaving it hanging over a chair…ahem). We know running a hectic household with a young child will be challenging, but manageable, as together we have a great balance.
We make a great team, and are a great support to each other in our lives and work. We travelled all across Canada to see each other perform in plays and musicals, and were careful proofreaders for each other when we were both working on our Masters Degrees. We’ve been lucky to work together in a variety of settings: we created several shows for a theatre company that tours to seniors’ residences throughout Ontario; taught a Glee Choir, setting vocal arrangements and choreography on fifteen energetic adolescents; and most recently we collaborated to create and deliver a new course, which is now part of the curriculum in our college program.
Adam has been teaching in post-secondary performing arts programs for over ten years, and at college he teaches musical theatre history, repertoire and performance, and singing. He taught music and theatre for kids for many years, working with students between the ages of 5 and 19—the “Broadway Babies” were a favourite class. He continues to work with children in the arts, coordinating an annual free program for students across Southern Ontario every fall. Adam worked professionally as a performer in plays and musicals, and as a musical director across the country.
Adam is particularly passionate about Canadian literature, especially the novels of Margaret Atwood, Michael Crummey, and Michael Ondaatje. He enjoys amateur photography, and spends afternoons with his mom and their cameras around Toronto, or enrolled together in a photography course. Adam also enjoys yoga, and is looking forward to attending “baby and me” classes with his girlfriends.
Robert is a sought-after dance faculty member at several performing arts colleges and universities, and has recently completed his Master’s degree in Dance Studies at York University. Robert has worked as a performer, dancing in musicals all over Canada, from Vancouver, BC to Charlottetown, PEI, as well as choreographing several musicals.
Robert reads just about anything, but especially loves Agatha Christie and mystery stories. Robert loves card games, board games, and video games. Getting Adam to learn the basic rules of “Settlers of Catan” was a recent triumph, Robert’s still trying to get him to find the love of Mario Kart.
Since 2011, we have been living near Bloor West Village in a large, two-bedroom apartment with lots of windows that keep our home bright and sunny. We have a spacious eat-in kitchen where we like to host friends and family for dinner, and a large living room for relaxing, reading, and marking schoolwork. Our second bedroom is currently our music room/office, and is ready to become a nursery.
We love our neighborhood, with its beautiful parks that run along the Humber River, and nearby shops, schools, and libraries that we can walk to. The subway is across the street from our building, which gives us easy access to our favourite restaurants and venues throughout Toronto. We have a fairly short commute, about a half hour drive from home to work.
We are both avid readers, and have lost many hours wandering through used bookstores or browsing in Chapters. Most Friday nights we enjoy homemade pizza and a quiet night in. We enjoy old movies or foreign films, and usually watch them on the couch with popcorn. Adam likes action and superhero movies, and generally sees them in the cinema with a close friend from high school. We enjoy going out to live theatre together, in Toronto, as well as visiting the Stratford and Shaw Festivals every summer. We try to also take in the opera and ballet when we can.
When the weather is good we are both runners, though usually at slightly different paces and rarely on the same schedule, so we avoid racing each other. We enjoy a variety of nearby running routes from the Spring to Fall. Adam and his sister are hoping to complete a half-marathon together this year.
Vacation for us is usually a trip to New York City. We visited for the first time together when we were in college, and have seen over twenty-five Broadway shows together since then. In fact, Robert proposed during a romantic carriage ride in Central Park! In 2013, after a few years’ delay, we visited several cities in Italy and France on our Honeymoon. It was a fantastic vacation, and wonderful to be able to enjoy art, history, and culture together. We have a wish list of other cities and countries we’d love to visit—or we may just go back to Florence!
Robert’s extended family share a cottage near Ottawa, and we love being able to retreat there every summer to see family, or relax alone on the side of the lake. We like to enjoy books, barbecue, campfires, and the quiet.
Family is very important to us, and we spend as much quality time together as we can. Our families are all very supportive of our adoption plans, and are incredibly excited for us to be parents.
Robert grew up near Vancouver, BC, and his family lives out West. We usually spend at least two weeks a year in BC, and have specifically enjoyed Christmas with our family on the West Coast for the past several years. Robert calls his parents every week, and Adam is in regular contact with our sister-in-law via phone and text. Robert’s brother and his wife have a nine-year-old son and three-year-old daughter, who we love to spend time with, and chatting on FaceTime. This past year, Robert’s parents move into the in-law suite of his brother’s new home so that they can be near their grandchildren, and so our family can help support them in retirement.
Adam’s family all live within an hour of Toronto. His sister is a nurse and his brother a cop: juggling our schedules usually means we celebrate with Christmas dinner in January, but almost always when there is still snow on the ground. Adam’s mom is a retired school teacher, who breeds Norfolk Terriers. His dad is a semi-retired accountant, who has recently begun leading running clinics at The Running Room. His sister, her husband, and their two young sons live quite near Adam’s mom in a small town an hour north of Toronto—Grandma is a very willing babysitter. Adam’s younger brother and his wife live near Hamilton with their one-year-old son. We make spending time with our family a priority, and are very happy to be “fun uncles”.
We both look forward to being active dads, and spending quality time together as a family. Parenting is equally important to both of us, and we’re very fortunate that our teaching schedules will allow us to both spend time at home as our family grows. Robert will be the primary caregiver, and we plan that one of us will be home with our child until they start school. We both have summers off, and we especially look forward to that time to spend in activities and adventures together, and with family and friends.
We plan to be supportive and attentive parents, and know that we will provide a secure and loving home for our child. We both have a great deal of experience with kids, spending a great deal of time with our nephews, niece, and Adam’s goddaughter, babysitting for our friends, and teaching music and dance for students as young as 3. While teaching can’t possibly prepare us for the reality of being a dad, we know that we have the ability to “roll with the punches”. We have both inherited patience and cool heads from our parents; neither of us were raised with excessive yelling or physical punishment. We plan to navigate the tough times by discussing our feelings, and always being honest.
When we first learned about open adoption we were excited by the possibility, and feel it is the best option for us to create our family. We are especially drawn to open adoption so that our child can have the opportunity to know you as he or she grows, and we welcome extended family who may also want to be connected to our family. We know that each family is unique, and our friends and community demonstrate the many ways a family is created. We both strongly believe that growing our extended family will only add to the love for our child, and that more love is always a good thing.
We imagine our relationship with you will develop based on our shared feelings and desires, and want to create that relationship with you as we learn about each other. We see our family every few weeks, and celebrate events and holidays together throughout the year. We hope we can build new traditions with you. Many of our close friends are truly part of our extended family, and we hope to include you in that circle.
Our adoption journey has taught us how deeply committed we are to parenthood, and how much love is in our hearts to share. We have deep respect for all the choices you have to make, and wish you all the best along your path.
Thank you for getting to know us a little, we have our fingers crossed tightly that together we may be a good match. We would love to connect in any way that is comfortable for you.
Our very best,
Adam & Robert