This guest post is by “P and R,” waiting adoptive parents in Alberta.
With the recent news about the regulations regarding online adoption profiles changing in Alberta, I thought I’d give you a perspective on what a typical wait is like for prospective parents in that province.
I’m writing this for couples, singles, and parents-to-be in general—those who are beginning their adoption journey, those who are en route, and hopefully those who will soon become a family.
Alberta’s adoption laws are outdated. In Alberta and a few other provinces, hopeful parent cannot advertise their desire to adopt a baby online or anywhere.
You must go through an accredited agency, often with long waiting lists.
From what I understand this had lead to some birthparents choosing families from other provinces, because the profiles are readily viewable online.
“We got the call!” one of the couples on our profiles page announced the other day. They didn’t have to say anything more. We knew exactly what they meant.
It’s been nearly 20 years since we got our “call.” It came late one night when we were least expecting it.
On the other end of the line was a sweet woman from another part of the country asking us if we were interested in adopting her baby.
Even though it happened nearly two decades ago, just describing the moment gives us goosebumps. It was one of the best moments of our life—the moment when we realized our dream of parenthood might actually become a reality.
And yet even though phones and everything you can do with them have evolved over the years—remember the days when all you could do was make a call?—this recent piece by Emily Westbrooks shows that the anxiety and hysteria surrounding “the Call” is still as strong as ever.
“However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle,” the saying goes.
And it’s also worth defending, regardless of whether the title comes to you through adoption or another means.
Just ask Vietnamazinggg, an adoptive mother.
When a woman on Facebook told her she wasn’t a “real mom” because she didn’t give birth to her son, she didn’t turn away in shame or embarrassment.