This guest post is by Roozbeh, a waiting adoptive parent.
My wife and I first decided to adopt 10 years ago and officially started the adoption process five years later. Over the years we have received many comments and questions about our decision.
Informing and educating others about adoption is an ongoing process and we’ve never given up.
But we’ve learned to keep our expectations in check. Like many complicated topics, there are a lot of nuances to adoption and understanding them all is no easy task.
I would say that most of the insensitive or outright rude questions and comments we get comes down to a lack of knowledge and understanding.
I realize that adoption isn’t the right choice for everyone, and that’s fine. What I didn’t know, however, was that even talking about it can be challenging.
As a result, when it comes to discussing our journey with others my wife and I are more reserved than we were when we started the process—not because we’re afraid of openness, but rather because we want to avoid awkward and disturbing conversations.
Many of the adoption questions and comments we get are innocent—triggered by curiosity or an honest concern.
Still, whenever a new person raises the topic, we find ourselves gauging the individual and the situation before deciding what to say.
Below are some actual questions and comments we’ve received while we’ve been waiting to adopt, and our reactions to them. Continue reading