The Day A Birthmother Chose Us To Adopt Her Baby

This post is by adoptive parents Brandie and Doug.

When we were waiting to adopt, we remember reading people’s success stories and how much they were a lifeline for us. So we wanted to write something that may help somebody who needs a little hope.

In 2013 we had finally completed the year-long paperwork, education seminars and home visits and had our names officially on the list to adopt domestically.

We waited for six months with next to no bites on our adoption profile.  We remembered hearing that our profile would be seen more if we signed up for more than one agency. So even though it was expensive that’s what we decided to do.

We wanted a family so much, but we didn’t think a birthmother would choose us for a few reasons. Continue reading

“How Do You Know If A Birthmother Will Change Her Mind About Adoption?” 10 Warning Signs To Watch For

It’s a question we get all the time. “How do you know if a birthmother will change her mind about adoption?”

The short answer is, unfortunately you don’t.

Although a failed adoption placement can be devastating emotionally and financially, it’s nearly impossible to predict if, and when, it will happen.

As a prospective adoptive parent, you could have the greatest relationship in the world with an expectant mother one day and then the next day, KABOOM!,  it’s over.

She’s changed her mind and decided to parent, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Continue reading

3 Wrong Reasons To Consider Open Adoption For Your Baby (And One Right One)

The other day we were contacted by a woman with an unplanned pregnancy who was looking at creating an open adoption plan for her baby.

Like a lot of women in her situation, she had considered parenting but didn’t think it was the best decision for her child at this stage in her life.  However, she still wanted to be involved in his life, which is why she was weighing the pros and cons of open adoption.

From hearing her story, it was clear that she had done her homework and was carefully exploring all of her options.  Continue reading

Breastfeeding An Adopted Baby: What This Hopeful Mother Has Found

This guest post is by Mira G, a hopeful adoptive parent

My husband and I arrived at our adoption journey through the twists and turns of infertility. 

Once we decided that biology wasn’t a necessity for creating our family, and then decided that pregnancy was also not required for us to happily have a family together

So we began to move forward with the requirements in Ontario to become Adopt Ready.  

We completed our P.R.I.D.E. training, survived our home study, registered with every adoption licensee we could manage, and are now left with the wait. 

Through all of the other steps of this path there has always been something to do, paperwork to complete, questions to answer, things to check off the list. 

Now we are left with literally nothing to do but wait.  So to fill some of the spare time the wait leaves you with, we decided that it would be the perfect time to slowly design our perfect nursery and induce lactation in order to be able to breastfeed.

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5 Phrases Expectant Parents Hate To Hear From Adopting Parents (And What To Say Instead)

Right now an expectant parent with an adoption plan is browsing through profiles of prospective adoptive parents, hoping to connect with someone just like you. So why not help her?

Your parent profile is your calling card, a self-portrait that explains who you are, why you’re adopting, and what kind of parent you would be.

Through your words, your profile can paint a compelling picture of your life and help you create a strong first impression in the minds of expectant parents.

In short, it could be the game-changer in your quest to adopt a baby.

But if you’re not careful, your words can also be a huge turn-off for your readers as they make one of the biggest and most difficult decisions of their life.

Here are five phrases you need to avoid in your profile and in follow-up conversations with expectant parents who are exploring adoption. Continue reading