This guest blog is by Tom LaMarr, a proud adoptive father and author.
It was never our plan to become older parents. True, we had deliberately held off on starting a family, but even then, my wife, Sam, and I were thinking more along the lines of slightly older parents.
But here came the twist. By the time we chose to end our wait, parenthood had grown tired of waiting for us.
Pregnancy came easily, but ended in the heartache of miscarriage—the first of three. We visited specialists, changed our diets, and removed every last trace of fun and spontaneity from our romantic lives.
Four years in, we considered in vitro with its many complications, the most frightening measured in multiple births. All this time, we had been watching friends pursue adoption and share photos of beautiful, smiling children who weren’t quadruplets.
The photos won out. Domestic adoption emerged as our choice, and it’s one we never came to regret, even today, as our daughter Evelyn completes her first year of teenhood.
Being a parent proved worth the wait. At 61 years of age, I am part-time chauffeur and full-time proud father. I am also the world’s greatest chef, at least when preparing nachos or tomato soup, and a nuanced interpreter of bedtime stories.
These are the roles that most fully define me. They also happen to be the ones that give me my greatest satisfaction. Continue reading →
As a waiting adoptive parent, you want to succeed. But sometimes there are things you may be telling yourself that could actually be holding you back from making an adoption connection by creating a negative mindset.
Here are 10 things that waiting parents who find an open adoption match never say. Continue reading →