Choosing photos for your adoption profile is a daunting task. If you’re like most hopeful adoptive parents, you probably have a ton to choose from—from vacation selfies to Aunt Sophie’s 50th birthday bash.
So where do you begin, and how do you decide which ones to include and which ones to leave out?
A good place to start is to put yourself in the shoes of an expectant mother. If you were looking for an adoptive family for your baby, what would you be looking for?
Too many times hopeful adoptive parent approach this issue the opposite way — by choosing photos that appeal to them, either because the pictures make them look good or have sentimental value.
But expectant parents don’t care what you look like or how much fun your wedding was.
They want to know what you’re really like and whether you’ll make good parents for their child. Continue reading →
In his session, entitled “Reshaping Adoption for the 21st Century: Progressing from Child Placement to Family Success,” Pertman challenged us to consider what is a permanent family and what can we do to help families become successful.
When I adopted my sons I thought that placement in my home meant they would be comfortable in the family.
It was soon clear that it takes more than placement to make a family. It takes planning, work, and some sacrifice. Continue reading →
Yesterday might have been hard, too. And maybe the day before, and the week, and the entire month.
There’s so much you have to think about. So much you have to do. And so little control over the process.
Your profile has been out there, at your agency and online, for months and the only people who have contacted you about it are scammers and SEO services promising you placement at the top of Google.
Your home study is up for renewal, which means that you’ll need to meet with your social worker again, which means dipping into your vacation fund, which means putting off that much-needed trip to Mexico that you promised your spouse for yet another year.
The holidays are nearly here, and with it the family get-togethers, along the inevitable question on every one’s lips: “Any news?”
And, to top it all off, one of the women at the office just announced she’s pregnant—with twins to boot!
Sometimes you just can’t catch a break.
But don’t worry, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. We know what you’re going through.