“Why Don’t Birthmothers Like Us?”




“Why don’t birthmothers like us?”

The question came out of the blue, but it wasn’t completely unexpected. Other prospective adoptive parents had asked it before.

I’m sure I did too when were waiting to adopt.

It came from a prospective adoptive mother I’ll called Pam. For nearly two years, she and her husband had been waiting to get picked by an expectant mother with an adoption plan.

And yet despite a few inquires that didn’t pan out, they were still waiting to get matched. And they were quickly losing hope.

“Sometimes I feel like it’s just not going to happen for us,” she said. “Every day I lose faith and wonder whether it’s time to move on and give up on our dream to become parents.”

And that’s when she wondered whether the reason they hadn’t been picked was because birthmothers simply didn’t like them. Continue reading

27 Things Adoptive Parents Know To Be True


1. You know that you are just as “real” as any other parent who wipes away their child’s tears when they are sad, stays up with them at night when they are sick, and celebrates their accomplishments when they succeed.

2. You know that despite everything you went through to become a parent, you would do it all over again in a heartbeat because it lead you to your child.

3. You know that adoption has made you if not a better person, than a more patient one (waiting two years for “The Call” or even a call will do that to you).

4. You know that there’s another family out there that thinks your child is just as awesome as you do.

5. You know that nothing you ever do will be harder than becoming a parent — or more rewarding.

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#ILoveAdoption: 23 Messages Of Adoption Love That Will Warm Your Heart

Adoption is about love.

That’s why we at Canada Adopts! look forward to Valentine’s Day every year.

It’s the day when we get to celebrate our love for others and for families created through adoption.

We wanted to know what our readers love about adoption so we asked them to share their thoughts using the hashtag #ILoveAdoption on our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram pages.

Here’s what they told us. Continue reading

8 Things I Wish I Knew About Writing An Adoption Profile Letter

Babies come to their families in different ways.

Sometimes, the stork brings them. In our case, our adoption profile letter did.

It was how our children’s birth families first discovered us and the reason why they eventually chose to place with us.

Even though we couldn’t be happier with the way that things worked out, writing our letter was no easy task.

At times, it was even harder than the wait.

Here are 8 things I learned about writing our adoption profile letter that may help you with yours. Continue reading

Why Adoptees Need To Choose Their Own Life Path

adoptee-chooseThis guest post is by Mariette Williams, an adoptee

One of my favorite quotes is Mary Oliver’s “What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

We all grow up with big dreams and aspirations, but for some, those aspirations feel more like obligations.

As a transracial adoptee from Haiti, I grew up with the idea that my life had to mean something, that I had to do something great or my life would be a waste. Continue reading